I have an acquaintance who I run into often and we were at the bar together when groups meet up. So I see her once a week or so. And lately we've been sort of flirting/escalating with each other when we see each other. She asked me if I wanted to share a cab to our final destinations as she was leaving. I said no, and I'm staying at the bar longer. Is this something I can recover from next time I see her? I will see her in a week when I go back to her town (she lives in another city). I know some may say I'm reading too much into this but with the background I'm pretty sure what was going on. Do you ever go back and escalate with a woman you denied before?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Can you recover from denying a woman?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Your neediness is showing. Spin plates.
Don't see your problem. You're not easy to get, you had other plans that night. As long you don't apologise to her, I guess you became even more interesting to her.
Keep flirting and escalating and stop worrying about her thoughts.
Keep flirting and escalating and stop worrying about her thoughts.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
**** yea. Denying women is a crucial part of game.
You, my friend, just set yourself apart from most guys. Don't ruin it by overanalyzing. Spin plates and do you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I ran into her again, and spent about 3 hours with her, when it was time to leave, I asked her if she wanted a ride home. She said no and shook her head with a smile. I asked her for her number and her response was she didn't want to give it to me there but will next week. I said I guess I could wait another week and she laughed and said she'd give it to me later that night. I left about 20 minutes later and didn't bring up the phone number.
kenpiffyjr
Senior Don Juan
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what happened to your balls at the bar.
Stand up straight like you're Ab Lincoln and say give me your number so we can go out and have fun soon. Ain't no asking out chere. Take what you want!
Stop being a puss!
Stand up straight like you're Ab Lincoln and say give me your number so we can go out and have fun soon. Ain't no asking out chere. Take what you want!
Stop being a puss!