"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Can u hit on customers in a Bar?

rushing dude 123

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I work in a bar that is in a bowling alley and i help on lanes 2. Now i know hitting on the people i work with wud b a bad idea, because it cud cause trouble. The customers i am not to sure about, because i am worried if a bad reaction cud get me in trouble, but i think i am just being stupid their kinda. U can figure that i wud b talking to a lot of cute/drunk girls in this job and yep i do and flirt a bit too, but nothing wud ever happen unless i actually make a close. I just need u guys to set my head straight on this matter thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Effington

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It's not really good form to spend too much time with one person, generally I'd think you have job responsibilities to perform. Two minutes, get a phone number and arrange for plans to meet when you're not working. Oh, also, making out with guests could be a bad idea, depending on your boss.
 

rushing dude 123

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yeh i suppose ur right, i was just making excuses not to approach. There r limits to this, my managers would b fine with me asking out customers has long has i am not wasting time like making out with them or spending to long on one customer. If i close for numbers i guess i would have to make sure manager is not near. I was just thinking that the customers would complain to manager, but i guess that is the same has thinking a girl on the street would just flip out swearing at u, more than likely it won't happen.

Any more opinions on the subject would b appreciated, but i think i got it down.
 

Bonez

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I get numbers all the time working in a bar. Been there for 7 months and I have never once gotten in trouble for hitting on customers.

rapport, flirt, push pull, neg, cut them off and ask for their number... whatever you feel like doing. As long as you do it right and don't offend them it should be ALLLLL good.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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thatguyjamalx

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Yeah, bonez is on it, when I was working in a bar for 2yrs thats how I got my majority of pu$$ie.
I miss those days...
 
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