Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
It's a trap, either way.
Unless you are in Scandanavia and then the women would find it insulting and like you are trying to gain some sort of control over her.
Is she responding to your texts appropriately? Is she contributing equally or more to the early stages, or are you doing all of the work? Is she blowing up your phone with good morning messages? Does she look or act like a 304? Is setting the date with her easier, or does she have a lot of "birthdays" and "work shifts" that are getting in the way? There are a lot of ways to gauge interest level before the first date.
None of that means a hill of beans once you meet in person. It all goes out the window and you know within 5 minutes most likely if you are going to want to spend more time with her or not.
Sure, none of that guarantees anything once you meet in person. I agree that the first five minutes of an actual date matter way more than texting ever will.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
yeah, modern women are out earning a lot of men, it should not come as a shock to anyone that more women are willing to pay. they wanted equality and they got it. if they want to pay, let them.
Agreed but you also have to screen for interest. As you've said yourself, the ROI has overall gone down in recent years.
When I leave the USA, I see how well groomed and organized the other men are.
Depends. When I was dating, I'd always cover a drink and perhaps a tapa or such. If I didn't care for the girl, one drink and then jet. If I was 50/50 and had a full plate, I'd give it a shot. The less you care, the more they do. People, in general, want what they cannot have.
Well it comes as a shock to me because I've never had a woman offer to pay for me on a first date. I would say about 20-25% of women would insist on paying occasionally (after you've already been dating for a bit). But most women hit the pause button on feminism whenever the bill arrives. For some reason, they view free meals as their God given right. Kind of like a fourth generation welfare recipient would view food stamps.
seems like you are presenting a beta male provider frame
See, this kind of thinking never really made sense to me. How does paying for someone's attention (because that's really what it boils down to) equate to strength and taking charge? You are not doing anything bold or out of the ordinary. On the contrary, you are following social conventions and doing what most other men have done over the past couple of hundred years.
well i should clarify i NEVER do dinner dates until after we bang, so i can't comment on how common it would be if i was doing dinner for a first date, but i wouldn't imagine them to be picking up the bill in that case. in any case, once something is established with them, it's not uncommon at all for them to pick up the tab for dinner, in fact it seems like they do it more often than not. it could be that i tend to screen hard for the types of women who are have genuine interest and not the ones just looking to date portable ATMs. that's why i think doing cheap/free dates at first are really effective for screening.
I don't go for dinner on first dates either. But even on subsequent dates, they rarely pay for dinner, drinks or whatever it may be. Maybe it's got something to do with where I live, as the vibe here is approaching Miami/ LA levels of materialism.
You also see how average to below average looking men are dating hotties in many cases far more often.
