"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Can Goodlooking Guys Get Away With Being AFC?
- Thread starter Juan_Man
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
Fully agree
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
If it means get one night stands with hot girls, hell yeah!
If it means sustaining a healthy long term relationship, hell no!
I agree with this.
But again it also depends on what AFCish behavior we are talking about. Just bear in mind that behaviors that are perceived as AFCish by some people are NOT necessarily "truely AFCish" and might be smooth moves. Hope people understand what I mean on this one...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
There are plenty of good looking guys on this site, but why do you think they came here?
I'm fortunate to have good looks, height, physique and general appearance on my side, and even though I've always got more initial female attention than my friends, I've been through more failed relationships, failed dates and been with less women than many guys a lot worse looking, scruffier, shorter and fatter than myself. Why? Because I used to be an AFC and a supplicating wuss and it's a literal turn off to women!
It's only since I've changed my personality/mental state and become more confident and adept at handling women, that I'm where I want to be.
An AFC can stimulate her mind if he's willing to pay for everything. Even though the girl and the guy's intellect is somwhere around high school (no offense, ****ers who are under 21, you ****ers clog this forum, ****ers) if he's all about money he doesn;t have to work as hard as the guy who doesn't have money. It's a tradeoff sometimes.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
Damn, how it would be awesome to look like him.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.