"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Can Goodlooking Guys Get Away With Being AFC?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
Fully agree
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
If it means get one night stands with hot girls, hell yeah!
If it means sustaining a healthy long term relationship, hell no!
I agree with this.
But again it also depends on what AFCish behavior we are talking about. Just bear in mind that behaviors that are perceived as AFCish by some people are NOT necessarily "truely AFCish" and might be smooth moves. Hope people understand what I mean on this one...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
There are plenty of good looking guys on this site, but why do you think they came here?
I'm fortunate to have good looks, height, physique and general appearance on my side, and even though I've always got more initial female attention than my friends, I've been through more failed relationships, failed dates and been with less women than many guys a lot worse looking, scruffier, shorter and fatter than myself. Why? Because I used to be an AFC and a supplicating wuss and it's a literal turn off to women!
It's only since I've changed my personality/mental state and become more confident and adept at handling women, that I'm where I want to be.
An AFC can stimulate her mind if he's willing to pay for everything. Even though the girl and the guy's intellect is somwhere around high school (no offense, ****ers who are under 21, you ****ers clog this forum, ****ers) if he's all about money he doesn;t have to work as hard as the guy who doesn't have money. It's a tradeoff sometimes.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
Damn, how it would be awesome to look like him.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.