Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ummm but most people are horrible pretending to be decent...LOL so its all bullThe Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
:crackup:The Deacon said:if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Do the rest of the people at your library a favor and burn that book when you're done with it.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
LOL. I guess we will.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
:yes: to all of the above.The Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Recluce said:no, he cannot. However, he can turn you into an emotional tampon!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Funniest thread in a long timeShyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
Haha, aww shucks. Yeah, I'm really 19. I'll take that as a compliment.Francisco d'Anconia said:Are you sure that you're only 19?
Anyone connected to the Oprah/Feminism "machine" is inherently evil, supposedly. What Deacon said about the book was correct, don't expect to build a house if you don't have any tools.Shyyhs said:What's wrong with Dr. Phil? He has thousands of women that want a piece of him.