You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
ummm but most people are horrible pretending to be decent...LOL so its all bullThe Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
:crackup:The Deacon said:if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Do the rest of the people at your library a favor and burn that book when you're done with it.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
LOL. I guess we will.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
:yes: to all of the above.The Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Recluce said:no, he cannot. However, he can turn you into an emotional tampon!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Funniest thread in a long timeShyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
Haha, aww shucks. Yeah, I'm really 19. I'll take that as a compliment.Francisco d'Anconia said:Are you sure that you're only 19?
Anyone connected to the Oprah/Feminism "machine" is inherently evil, supposedly. What Deacon said about the book was correct, don't expect to build a house if you don't have any tools.Shyyhs said:What's wrong with Dr. Phil? He has thousands of women that want a piece of him.