She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ummm but most people are horrible pretending to be decent...LOL so its all bullThe Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:crackup:The Deacon said:if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Do the rest of the people at your library a favor and burn that book when you're done with it.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
LOL. I guess we will.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
:yes: to all of the above.The Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Recluce said:no, he cannot. However, he can turn you into an emotional tampon!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Funniest thread in a long timeShyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
Haha, aww shucks. Yeah, I'm really 19. I'll take that as a compliment.Francisco d'Anconia said:Are you sure that you're only 19?
Anyone connected to the Oprah/Feminism "machine" is inherently evil, supposedly. What Deacon said about the book was correct, don't expect to build a house if you don't have any tools.Shyyhs said:What's wrong with Dr. Phil? He has thousands of women that want a piece of him.