That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ummm but most people are horrible pretending to be decent...LOL so its all bullThe Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
:crackup:The Deacon said:if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Do the rest of the people at your library a favor and burn that book when you're done with it.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
LOL. I guess we will.Shyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
:yes: to all of the above.The Deacon said:Doctor Phil's advice is only good for experienced people who end up in relationships with horrible people. I'm assuming you're talking about LoveSmart. The problem with that book is that it assumes you can already get a chick, but if you can't get a chick in the first place it's like having a book telling you how to fly a plane when you don't even have access to a plane.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Recluce said:no, he cannot. However, he can turn you into an emotional tampon!
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Funniest thread in a long timeShyyhs said:I went to the library and checked out one of his relationship books. I guess we'll find out.
Haha, aww shucks. Yeah, I'm really 19. I'll take that as a compliment.Francisco d'Anconia said:Are you sure that you're only 19?
Anyone connected to the Oprah/Feminism "machine" is inherently evil, supposedly. What Deacon said about the book was correct, don't expect to build a house if you don't have any tools.Shyyhs said:What's wrong with Dr. Phil? He has thousands of women that want a piece of him.