"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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can a guy get hiv from oral sex?

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can a guy get hiv (or perhaps other kinds of std's) from going down on a girl?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"Sexual route. The majority of HIV infections are acquired through unprotected sexual relations. Sexual transmission can occur when infected sexual secretions of one partner come into contact with the genital, oral, or rectal mucous membranes of another."


Links:
HIV
Transmission and prevention
STDs
Transmission
 

speakeasy

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rocco said:
can a guy get hiv (or perhaps other kinds of std's) from going down on a girl?
Just don't suck down her juices and you should be ok for the most part.
 

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If a girl has a cut in her mouth or some kind of sore. It can happen

Use a condom. Tough crap if she hates the taste

You won't get HIV, HERPES, god knows what else
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So let's say you get a BJ from a girl with herpes, I wonder if you go and wash your d*ck off right afterwards, will that be enough to stop the virus from taking hold? How long does the virus have to be in contact with the skin on your penis for you to get herpes?
 

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If you are getting a BJ, there is very very little chance of getting HIV, unless she had open bloody wounds in her miouth, and she was blowing blood down your ****.. If that did not happen, then you are safe.
 

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im editing my post because i want to tell ryan that yes you can get herpes with condom use. i know because i did.
i also want to answer speakeasy's question. herpes is a skin virus not a bodily fluid one. if you give someone oral and there is enough skin contact, that's that. there isn't a set time period.
washing your face is a great idea to lower the risk, but it won't stop the spread of herpes, even if everyone tried it.
you can even catch it by kissing.
you can transfer oral herpes to genital herpes or genital herpes to oral herpes by having oral sex.


as for hiv, all i know is that it is a bodily fluid spread virus. it comes from blood, semen, vaginal secretions and pre ejaculation secretions and it can be passed thru breast milk coming into contact with your sexual oral or anal membranes. (mouth, sex organ or butthole) . at one time, we were told you could get it thru salvia, but i am unsure if that is still what is being told.


you can go to www.afraidtoask.com to find out any info you need, they include pictures and you can ask them questions also.
 
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The kissing only comes with mutual open wounds, and blood exchange, not from any saliva
 

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@ Penkitten,

Thanks for the link, it's very informative(and groce). It answered a lot of questions I had about diseases and such.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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penkitten

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blink, we have several std threads here if you search under health and fitness
 

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makes you wanna get a needle and give em a quick prick when you meet em to test. just tell em "oops I must have had a killer hangnail on my finger i better go file that down"
 
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