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SunnyD said:
Damn you're out of the country? Not sure how it could work but I'm still open for possibilities ;-)
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Calling or texting the day after sex
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Damn you're out of the country? Not sure how it could work but I'm still open for possibilities ;-)
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
here are my thought:
-- sleeping with a girl the first night might mean that she's a total w-hore or that she's really into you (usually it's the second one -- though it's easy to tell by looking into girl's eyes); this is actually my preffered way of hooking up. Dates are for after i sex the girl so we know we r really into each other.
-- texting is for f-uck buddies, phone calls are for girlfriends/potential girlfriends.
-- always get in touch the next day (by evening, not necessary by noon). You might develop a relationship if u r into the girl, or at least fine a f-uck buddy.
-- sleeping with a girl the first night might mean that she's a total w-hore or that she's really into you (usually it's the second one -- though it's easy to tell by looking into girl's eyes); this is actually my preffered way of hooking up. Dates are for after i sex the girl so we know we r really into each other.
-- texting is for f-uck buddies, phone calls are for girlfriends/potential girlfriends.
-- always get in touch the next day (by evening, not necessary by noon). You might develop a relationship if u r into the girl, or at least fine a f-uck buddy.
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gruby said:here are my thought:
-- sleeping with a girl the first night might mean that she's a total w-hore or that she's really into you (usually it's the second one -- though it's easy to tell by looking into girl's eyes); this is actually my preffered way of hooking up. Dates are for after i sex the girl so we know we r really into each other.
-- texting is for f-uck buddies, phone calls are for girlfriends/potential girlfriends.
-- always get in touch the next day (by evening, not necessary by noon). You might develop a relationship if u r into the girl, or at least fine a f-uck buddy.
Sounds good. I knew it was going well when she was twirling her hair the whole date with her finger. That's a great sign when they do that.
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Even when it's the hair on her arms???!!! :nervous:My Name is Nobody said:Sounds good. I knew it was going well when she was twirling her hair the whole date with her finger. That's a great sign when they do that.
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Francisco d'Anconia said:Even when it's the hair on her arms???!!! :nervous:
LOL
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Could have been worse, could have been the hair on her lip! :nervous:My Name is Nobody said:
iqqi
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Things are sounding great, don't let the haters get to you. Don't hate in 08!!!
Besides, you already know you have a confidence issue, and that is good that u r aware.
Its cool she asked you out already... now lookahere: Don't seem so excited/available/dependent!!!
Just keep that in mind. If she asks you to make plans again, at least ACT like you think you already have plans that night. Then you can call her back, and make her get all excited when you realize your plans aren't THAT night, and you are free.
GWIS?
Besides, you already know you have a confidence issue, and that is good that u r aware.
Its cool she asked you out already... now lookahere: Don't seem so excited/available/dependent!!!
Just keep that in mind. If she asks you to make plans again, at least ACT like you think you already have plans that night. Then you can call her back, and make her get all excited when you realize your plans aren't THAT night, and you are free.
GWIS?
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She was still twirling her hair with her finger last night when we were chilling and she told me I "have game".. What does that mean?
Sorry iqqi I didn't see your post until now and we hung out last night after she texted me asking me to "do something". I haven't contacted her since she left my place this morning so I'm playing it cool ;-)
Sorry iqqi I didn't see your post until now and we hung out last night after she texted me asking me to "do something". I haven't contacted her since she left my place this morning so I'm playing it cool ;-)
Francisco d'Anconia
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Ummm, her lip was itching?My Name is Nobody said:She was still twirling her hair with her finger last night when we were chilling and she told me I "have game".. What does that mean?
:crackup:Francisco d'Anconia said:Ummm, her lip was itching?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You the man after I read your message about being out with another plate I called this hottie in my phone she answered and we are meeting up tomorrow night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Francisco d'Anconia said:Ummm, her lip was itching?
I love you man ** NO HOMO