Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ducaro said:You have a good gf worthy of all the respect. you love her a lot and have invested great emotional value in her. All of a sudden, out ofthe blue.. she likes another guys and cheats (all the way) on you! (lets face it anybody can be in this situation, whether you accept it or not)
what would would do?
If she does it again? Are you retarded?Raikojo17 said:let her know that you dont tolerate that sh1t and if she does it again than it will be over between you 2.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Quoted for wisdom.Fred Da Head said:If she does it again? Are you retarded?
When it comes to cheating, it's a one-strike-you're-out policy, period.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ducaro said:You have a good gf worthy of all the respect. you love her a lot and have invested great emotional value in her. All of a sudden, out ofthe blue.. she likes another guys and cheats (all the way) on you! (lets face it anybody can be in this situation, whether you accept it or not)
what would would do?
i thought you guys would sense the sarcasm. lol guess not.Raikojo17 said:let her know that you dont tolerate that sh1t and if she does it again than it will be over between you 2.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
absolut honesty said:do u guys kno what its like to use a girl for good sex and just play with her head??
thats what u gotta do to a girl that cheats on u
dont JUST get rid of her
make some good use out of her
be efficient lol
(im serious)