fuko2007
Senior Don Juan
Just wondering what do all you DJ's have planned this weekend?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Calling all DJ's
- Thread starter fuko2007
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
fuko2007
Senior Don Juan
wordDemonpenz said:
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Saturday meeting a new chick for lunch, Sunday taking a drive to pick up a vintage arcade game I just bought.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Tonight I'm going to a swingers "meet and greet" with a new f*ck buddy who is introducing me to the swinging and polyamory scene. No sex at this party, I guess they have to check out the new people to make sure we're not psychos before they invite us to the actual "play party" (I call 'em orgies). She said if her bisexual (female) friend shows up tonight we may be able to get a threesome going after the party.
Tomorrow one of my recent exes (9 month relp, ended a couple of weeks ago) wants to take me to a hotel and have sex. Not sure if I want to spend time hanging around a hotel the whole weekend with her, and not sure I really want to bang her again because I'm kind of over it. The hotel is pretty well-known and has a kickass party deck and pool so it might be worth it, but the girl is kind of broke so I'd feel bad about letting her spend $250 a night on something like this.
Sunday playing tennis with a chick I told about the swinging stuff and she seems into it and wants to know more. She and I have been playing tennis and flirting since last summer. She initiates most of it like sending me pics of herself in a bikini when she's on vacation with her husband. Her husband probably isn't into it so I'm going to try to convince her to come by herself to a swing party as a "unicorn" (ie single female). She's cheated on him in the past so I may be able to get her.
Tomorrow one of my recent exes (9 month relp, ended a couple of weeks ago) wants to take me to a hotel and have sex. Not sure if I want to spend time hanging around a hotel the whole weekend with her, and not sure I really want to bang her again because I'm kind of over it. The hotel is pretty well-known and has a kickass party deck and pool so it might be worth it, but the girl is kind of broke so I'd feel bad about letting her spend $250 a night on something like this.
Sunday playing tennis with a chick I told about the swinging stuff and she seems into it and wants to know more. She and I have been playing tennis and flirting since last summer. She initiates most of it like sending me pics of herself in a bikini when she's on vacation with her husband. Her husband probably isn't into it so I'm going to try to convince her to come by herself to a swing party as a "unicorn" (ie single female). She's cheated on him in the past so I may be able to get her.
HalfAddict
Master Don Juan
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Im gonna ride my bike. lol
Zion
Senior Don Juan
Gonna go buy some new clothes. Gotta look good.
DragonBlood
Master Don Juan
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Listen to some Ted Nugget and get some work done. My ***** can wait.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
bradd:
Best excuse ever, from American Psycho:
"I have to return some video tapes"
Best excuse ever, from American Psycho:
"I have to return some video tapes"