imservin22
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Called her babe...she asked why do you call me that? What's up?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Called her babe?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
imservin22
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have not hooked up with her yet
dap
Senior Don Juan
"Don't worry about it"
But honestly, this girl is prolly not into you.
But honestly, this girl is prolly not into you.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
That's why you pretty much don't use any term like that until you know she's into you. If she challenges you on why you call her that, it makes for a ʂhitty situation. In short, she probably has low IL in you to begin with, hence the rebellion to "babe".
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Mike32ct
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It's a little presumptuous early on. That's for a LTR chick.
moon goddess
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Had a guy who was calling me "baby" from the very first email. Red Flag. That means he is spinning so many plates he can't remember who he is talking to so he calls everyone "baby" and "sweetheart". 
JohnChops
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^^ what a sl0re this woman is. She needs the BanCock.moon goddess said:Had a guy who was calling me "baby" from the very first email. Red Flag. That means he is spinning so many plates he can't remember who he is talking to so he calls everyone "baby" and "sweetheart".
Anyway, who cares thats some over analyzing . I use hun, babe, baby, whatever the fvck I feel like calling any girl lol. My trick- dont use it in a serious tone. That is most likely what you did so shes like "ohemgee wtf is going on here?". Use it if you want, use it in a non serious tone.:moon:
moon goddess
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Seriously, dude?JohnChops said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LittleBigOne
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JohnChops said:
I think Moon Goddes wants to make you clear that guys need to be a bit more creative then just saying ´hey babe´. It´s almost the same like ´Hey Moon Goddes, you have nice boots ( i imagine she wears boots), wanne f#ck?´. Even in a less serious tone you won´t get far with ´hey babe´
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perseverance
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'Babe', 'Love', 'Sweet thing' are just corny names and not only that, they sound so condescending it's unbelievable.
I have had some older women call me 'sweetie', 'my love' and I just cringe. So if it grates on me, it wouldn't surprise me if it grates on a lot of other people too.
I always refer to a person by their forename or surname, nothing else.
I have had some older women call me 'sweetie', 'my love' and I just cringe. So if it grates on me, it wouldn't surprise me if it grates on a lot of other people too.
I always refer to a person by their forename or surname, nothing else.
The women you want to be GFs, treat like GFs, and hope they come around. She's not coming around. If she was, she'd be glad you called her by a term of endearment.
Really, what kind of feminist cvnt doesn't like a man who treats her with a special tenderness he reserves only for women? "Yes, Mizzz Blackheart SIR!"
perseverence, this is yet another example of why women aren't men and can't be treated like men. We expect women to go down on their knees and svck d1cks. Sure, it's humiliating as hell. (The worst insult you can make to a man is to call him a "c0cksucker.") We expect women to humble themselves before men. There'd be something wrong if they didn't. Women are inferior to men and should act like it. So men are right to treat women like little children -- corny pet names and all.
Really, what kind of feminist cvnt doesn't like a man who treats her with a special tenderness he reserves only for women? "Yes, Mizzz Blackheart SIR!"
perseverence, this is yet another example of why women aren't men and can't be treated like men. We expect women to go down on their knees and svck d1cks. Sure, it's humiliating as hell. (The worst insult you can make to a man is to call him a "c0cksucker.") We expect women to humble themselves before men. There'd be something wrong if they didn't. Women are inferior to men and should act like it. So men are right to treat women like little children -- corny pet names and all.
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perseverance
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What are you on about? I don't use these names for women, because I find them cringeworthy, it has nothing to do with what women want and do not want. Some women like these pet names and other women do not. I don't like them myself, that's why I won't use them. If I know a person's name, I'll call them by their name.Down Low said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
imservin22
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The situation is we're in grad school together and we flirt back and forth. It's our first year, we're together a lot in at school, she always tries to find me and sit next to me in the library, I asked her out once she said she was busy, so that was a flag, haven't really asked her out for a date since, I was going to once exams are over as my act because then they'll be no excuses. Since we've gone to get food a few times, she'll always hook me up hw, bring me food etc. She's pretty attractive, and I'm not naive, I'm she has plenty of guys trying to get at her, and she's not my girl so she can live a life of her own, but she always reverts back to me. I'm just trying to figure this one out because I actually like her more than my other plates, so I would be down to continue a slow play, but there's no reason to do that if it's going nowhere. That's why I went with the babe to reaffirm that I'm not looking to be a friend, and if that's all this is then I'm out. I had done it a few times and didn't get this response. I'm a little older now, and the random chicks are have been old for a while, looking for something more stable.
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A woman with high interest in you always can find time for you. Ask her back out after exams if you want, if it's a no go then you should forget about anything more than being her friend.imservin22 said: