imservin22
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Called her babe...she asked why do you call me that? What's up?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Called her babe?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
imservin22
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have not hooked up with her yet
dap
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"Don't worry about it"
But honestly, this girl is prolly not into you.
But honestly, this girl is prolly not into you.
VladPatton
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That's why you pretty much don't use any term like that until you know she's into you. If she challenges you on why you call her that, it makes for a ʂhitty situation. In short, she probably has low IL in you to begin with, hence the rebellion to "babe".
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mike32ct
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It's a little presumptuous early on. That's for a LTR chick.
moon goddess
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Had a guy who was calling me "baby" from the very first email. Red Flag. That means he is spinning so many plates he can't remember who he is talking to so he calls everyone "baby" and "sweetheart". 
JohnChops
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^^ what a sl0re this woman is. She needs the BanCock.moon goddess said:Had a guy who was calling me "baby" from the very first email. Red Flag. That means he is spinning so many plates he can't remember who he is talking to so he calls everyone "baby" and "sweetheart".
Anyway, who cares thats some over analyzing . I use hun, babe, baby, whatever the fvck I feel like calling any girl lol. My trick- dont use it in a serious tone. That is most likely what you did so shes like "ohemgee wtf is going on here?". Use it if you want, use it in a non serious tone.:moon:
moon goddess
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Seriously, dude?JohnChops said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
LittleBigOne
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JohnChops said:
I think Moon Goddes wants to make you clear that guys need to be a bit more creative then just saying ´hey babe´. It´s almost the same like ´Hey Moon Goddes, you have nice boots ( i imagine she wears boots), wanne f#ck?´. Even in a less serious tone you won´t get far with ´hey babe´
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perseverance
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'Babe', 'Love', 'Sweet thing' are just corny names and not only that, they sound so condescending it's unbelievable.
I have had some older women call me 'sweetie', 'my love' and I just cringe. So if it grates on me, it wouldn't surprise me if it grates on a lot of other people too.
I always refer to a person by their forename or surname, nothing else.
I have had some older women call me 'sweetie', 'my love' and I just cringe. So if it grates on me, it wouldn't surprise me if it grates on a lot of other people too.
I always refer to a person by their forename or surname, nothing else.
The women you want to be GFs, treat like GFs, and hope they come around. She's not coming around. If she was, she'd be glad you called her by a term of endearment.
Really, what kind of feminist cvnt doesn't like a man who treats her with a special tenderness he reserves only for women? "Yes, Mizzz Blackheart SIR!"
perseverence, this is yet another example of why women aren't men and can't be treated like men. We expect women to go down on their knees and svck d1cks. Sure, it's humiliating as hell. (The worst insult you can make to a man is to call him a "c0cksucker.") We expect women to humble themselves before men. There'd be something wrong if they didn't. Women are inferior to men and should act like it. So men are right to treat women like little children -- corny pet names and all.
Really, what kind of feminist cvnt doesn't like a man who treats her with a special tenderness he reserves only for women? "Yes, Mizzz Blackheart SIR!"
perseverence, this is yet another example of why women aren't men and can't be treated like men. We expect women to go down on their knees and svck d1cks. Sure, it's humiliating as hell. (The worst insult you can make to a man is to call him a "c0cksucker.") We expect women to humble themselves before men. There'd be something wrong if they didn't. Women are inferior to men and should act like it. So men are right to treat women like little children -- corny pet names and all.
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perseverance
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What are you on about? I don't use these names for women, because I find them cringeworthy, it has nothing to do with what women want and do not want. Some women like these pet names and other women do not. I don't like them myself, that's why I won't use them. If I know a person's name, I'll call them by their name.Down Low said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
imservin22
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The situation is we're in grad school together and we flirt back and forth. It's our first year, we're together a lot in at school, she always tries to find me and sit next to me in the library, I asked her out once she said she was busy, so that was a flag, haven't really asked her out for a date since, I was going to once exams are over as my act because then they'll be no excuses. Since we've gone to get food a few times, she'll always hook me up hw, bring me food etc. She's pretty attractive, and I'm not naive, I'm she has plenty of guys trying to get at her, and she's not my girl so she can live a life of her own, but she always reverts back to me. I'm just trying to figure this one out because I actually like her more than my other plates, so I would be down to continue a slow play, but there's no reason to do that if it's going nowhere. That's why I went with the babe to reaffirm that I'm not looking to be a friend, and if that's all this is then I'm out. I had done it a few times and didn't get this response. I'm a little older now, and the random chicks are have been old for a while, looking for something more stable.
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A woman with high interest in you always can find time for you. Ask her back out after exams if you want, if it's a no go then you should forget about anything more than being her friend.imservin22 said: