"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cabo vs Cancun

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My girlfriend and I are going to Mexico for spring break in March. We're thinking either Cancun or Cabo. I havent been to either so if anyone has been to both you should compare the two for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cabo is probably better for a romantic getaway. I don't know if bringing a girl to spring break in Cancun is a good idea. Like bringing sand to the beach.

I'd say consider Puerto Vallarta too. Rent a condo in the Zona Romantica. That's a very nice destination for a couple. I like that place quite a bit actually.
 

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speakeasy said:
Cabo is probably better for a romantic getaway. I don't know if bringing a girl to spring break in Cancun is a good idea. Like bringing sand to the beach.

I'd say consider Puerto Vallarta too. Rent a condo in the Zona Romantica. That's a very nice destination for a couple. I like that place quite a bit actually.
Yea, we're considering Puerto Vallarta as well as Playa del Carmen. Id prefer Playa because it seems like it would be more chill. I dont want some place with a bunch of ruckus, but i realize its spring break. One of her girlfriends parents has a house in Cozumel so i think somewhere on the Gulf side would be good.
 

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Cool. Never been to Carmen. Vallarta seemed very chill to me, and safe too. So I can vouch for it.

I may soon hit you up on advice about Argentina. I may be going to S. America soon.
 

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I'd watch out for Mexico right now due to the fact that the authorites over there are having major problems with the drug cartels/ gang's .

I know cause I live like 4 hours away from the border and hear lots of stories , plus the fact that lots of people have been either attacked or kidnapped (Visitors) just for being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

So I'd be careful.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'd watch out for Mexico right now due to the fact that the authorites over there are having major problems with the drug cartels/ gang's .

I know cause I live like 4 hours away from the border and hear lots of stories , plus the fact that lots of people have been either attacked or kidnapped (Visitors) just for being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

So I'd be careful.
 
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