Ok, i wasn't planning on posting any situation-specific threads, but I am pretty confused. Here's the deal. I'll make it short since you guys probably know the bs details anyway since it hapens to everyone. Met a girl at my friends bday party. Gamed her perfectly all night, got the number. find out later that my friend wants her, but it's never gonna happen. I texted her (I know, bad move) a few times to come out with me and some friends. Showed up once with friends and left within 5 minutes to another club. Positive resposnses to about 5 texts over a period of about 3 weeks, then stops responding altogether. Adds me on myspace, and doesn't respond to any emails there. I'd really like to bang her but not sure what the deal is. i don't think friend zoned because I haven't hung out with her enough to fall into the friend hole. Only other idea I have is that my "friend" may have made me out to be an a-hole since he wants her. WHat ahould I do now? Give up on her?? Any ideas? Thanks.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Buyer's remorse??
- Thread starter Drewskie
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Nope. You should've picked up the phone, rung her and asked her to hang out on such & such dates. Instead of 5 texts over 3 weeks, it could've been 5 dates.
When you game it right and get the number, strike when the iron is hot.
When you game it right and get the number, strike when the iron is hot.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
incorrect. He needs to stop being a wimp and call her. Texting is the way to the friend zone.DonJuan11 said:
call her, say if you have to leave a voice mail "hey its _____, wanna come chill with me at ____ on ____,gimme a call (your number), bye"
like the other poster said in this thread, you should have rung her up when the iron was hot. After you meet them you need to call them and get your voice implanted in their head. Remember that a woman hearing your voice gets her thinking about you in ways that txting does not. Texting will most times get you into her gal pal status. I don't blame her for forgetting about you remember that girls have very fast fading interest levels, so strike while the iron is hot like it was already said in this thread.
1 thing you should do next time you meet another girl is when you are going to stablish the first contact by phone (lets say 3 days after you meet her) you can txt her, wait for her reply than call her like 2 mins after and say "hey i just read your message, whats up etc etc." It is very important to stablish a phone conversation with her and get your voice implanted in her head.
You need to stop worrying so much about this one because you only got 1 option which is asking her out. If you don't get a date (which is 95% likely because you never really showed your intentions with her and waited too long so she lost interest) you can forget about her.
read the 2 strikes ruleDrewskie said:
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f28300. Kudos on bringing up the 2 Strikes Rule.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.