Jus_LikeCandy
Banned
So, all in all, I am being manipulated and I am not happy. Weigh the good and the bad, that feeling I get when I am with him and the feeling I have when I am away from, which i experience so much more. It's not good...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????This guy is clearly not interested and especially not after a previous break up
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You can see where mystery and challenge come into play. The whole reason you even get puzzy as being a don juan, is becuase you are free and that are trying to get to know you, if they do that quickly, then you lose mystery. If you tell her everything about you, where is the chase?
Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.
VERY TRUEOriginally posted by DJDamage
Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.l[/url]
I didn't think chicks thad that problem:crackup:Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
I feel deprived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Playing games can involve many situations from harmless intial flirting games to cruel relationship mind games. When games involve manipulation, guilt, or lies, I check out every time. If someone uses these approaches on me, I count myself lucky and NEXT her immediately. There are too many other options to settle for less and compromise yourself.Originally posted by frivolousz21
but I sitll dont think we need to play games..
Of course he doesn't want you with someone else. What man wants this? This doesn't make what you have any more special. It is simply human nature. I think you've got enough ideas. Get to work and get back with the results.Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
But, he doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else, so what is a girl to do???
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.