"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BUSY or BULLSH!T???

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This is an age old line that men use. " Am I busy," "I will be busy," " I was busy."

Is busy bullsh!t? If you are really into a girl, is there a busy? If this girl holds your interest, will busy be out the window, and you make the time to see this girl???

More importantaly, if you are into this girl, would you rather spend time with your boys or be with your HB9??
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I think it cuts both ways. Women can brush us off with the "I'm busy" line, too.

I just got the age old rejection from a HB yesterday. Paraphrasing: "I'm sorry I can't go out with you. I am going to be busy for the whole summer."

WTF? Yeah, yeah, I know. NEXT! But for cryin' out loud, I'd like a decent reason, not some BS excuse. Something tells me that I'm not going to get it.

Come to think of it, I got the same rejection line from another girl about a year and a half ago.

In both cases, they both showed some initial interest and eventually flaked out.
 

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For some reason I think that busy is synoymous with bulls!t@!!! I hate that word!!! My guy tells me he is busy and he had some business to take care of!! You know what that turned out to be!!?!?!?! Hangin out at the bar with his FRAT Brothers!!!!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
For some reason I think that busy is synoymous with bulls!t@!!! I hate that word!!! My guy tells me he is busy and he had some business to take care of!! You know what that turned out to be!!?!?!?! Hangin out at the bar with his FRAT Brothers!!!!
So you want him to be honest with you because it will sound like this " I don't want to hang out with you this week because you are smothering me and I need my space to do my things, when I get horny again I will give you a call"

This kind of brutal honesty is pretty much kills a relationship so he won't say it. Just accept that you are not the centre in your man universe.
 

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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
For some reason I think that busy is synoymous with bulls!t@!!! I hate that word!!! My guy tells me he is busy and he had some business to take care of!! You know what that turned out to be!!?!?!?! Hangin out at the bar with his FRAT Brothers!!!!
So, who gives a sh!t ?
 

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OH NOES HE WAS HANGIN WIT HIS FRAT BROTHERS AND HE SAID HE WAS BUSY !! OMG OMG OMG OMFG !!! HOW DARE HE !!!!!!111!!



:crackup: :crackup:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It all depends on how often u see him.

If you see him everyday for a long period of time and then notice him distancing himself, telling you that he's busy and hanging out with his boys - let him do that! Every person, guy or girl needs space, he can't always be around you. He needs some time to be with his boys, he needs sometime to just be alone and relax u know. If you give him space, and don't complain when he's like that, he'll appreciate you a lot more then if you b!tch and moan.

If you rarely ever see him and he's always busy, or always out with his boys, and you see him once every week and a half or two, then it's time to find yourself another man, cause: 1.) your needs ain't being fullfilled, and 2.) he's prolly seeing other girls and you're just one girl in his rotation.

edit - the vice versa also works for girls.
 

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Would you rather have him boning some other chicks and tell you he's busy ? Although maybe that's exactly what he's doing
 

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I see him once a week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is nothing!!

I know where he is when he aint with me, it is just the fact that he isn't with me that pisses me off. We have mutual friends, so I know where he is at all times. I just makes me mad that he spends Monday might relaxing, Tuesday at the gym, Wednesday with one group of friends, Thursday with the Frat boys and Friday with the Frat boys, Saturday at Football.....

And, I have to wait until after all this!!! I get the scraps of what is left!! I don't complain and I don't push for more, but now I want to. The semester is over and it is almost summer!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Why the heck does my last post have tYJ as the name!!!!!!!!

Anyway, we were dating for 9 months, we split up and we jsut started talking again about 2 months ago...
 

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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
You men just don't get it...
You're a big girl now, so find a forum with GIRLS.
Don't come here asking for advice then insult us.
This is a guy's forum, and you're on a feminazi ego trip.

Now if you excuse me, i'm busy...
 

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Originally posted by TyJ

Monday might relaxing, Tuesday at the gym, Wednesday with one group of friends, Thursday with the Frat boys and Friday with the Frat boys, Saturday at Football.....
So when does he find time for other chicks ?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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