Jus_LikeCandy
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So, all in all, I am being manipulated and I am not happy. Weigh the good and the bad, that feeling I get when I am with him and the feeling I have when I am away from, which i experience so much more. It's not good...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????This guy is clearly not interested and especially not after a previous break up
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can see where mystery and challenge come into play. The whole reason you even get puzzy as being a don juan, is becuase you are free and that are trying to get to know you, if they do that quickly, then you lose mystery. If you tell her everything about you, where is the chase?
Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.
VERY TRUEOriginally posted by DJDamage
Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.l[/url]
I didn't think chicks thad that problem:crackup:Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
I feel deprived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Playing games can involve many situations from harmless intial flirting games to cruel relationship mind games. When games involve manipulation, guilt, or lies, I check out every time. If someone uses these approaches on me, I count myself lucky and NEXT her immediately. There are too many other options to settle for less and compromise yourself.Originally posted by frivolousz21
but I sitll dont think we need to play games..
Of course he doesn't want you with someone else. What man wants this? This doesn't make what you have any more special. It is simply human nature. I think you've got enough ideas. Get to work and get back with the results.Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
But, he doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else, so what is a girl to do???
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.