Jus_LikeCandy
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So, all in all, I am being manipulated and I am not happy. Weigh the good and the bad, that feeling I get when I am with him and the feeling I have when I am away from, which i experience so much more. It's not good...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????This guy is clearly not interested and especially not after a previous break up
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You can see where mystery and challenge come into play. The whole reason you even get puzzy as being a don juan, is becuase you are free and that are trying to get to know you, if they do that quickly, then you lose mystery. If you tell her everything about you, where is the chase?
Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.
VERY TRUEOriginally posted by DJDamage
Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.l[/url]
I didn't think chicks thad that problem:crackup:Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
I feel deprived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Playing games can involve many situations from harmless intial flirting games to cruel relationship mind games. When games involve manipulation, guilt, or lies, I check out every time. If someone uses these approaches on me, I count myself lucky and NEXT her immediately. There are too many other options to settle for less and compromise yourself.Originally posted by frivolousz21
but I sitll dont think we need to play games..
Of course he doesn't want you with someone else. What man wants this? This doesn't make what you have any more special. It is simply human nature. I think you've got enough ideas. Get to work and get back with the results.Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
But, he doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else, so what is a girl to do???
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.