"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Business... Is Life... Is Women.... DJ's should be rich...
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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WC2
Master Don Juan
Not only do you learn social skills to the fullest extent, but you also learn 90% of the business tactics you're going to need in the real world. My sales job was like my college for me. College is more like a vacation than something to prepare me for life.
3 Years later, I'm in college with my own company.. I owe it all to getting into Sales.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Chemistry
Master Don Juan
The concepts of selling yourself are exactly the same because people buy products if they like the person too… the drive and motivation to resist knockbacks that DJs must also possess is key for sales because sales is never a 100% success rate…
But yea… the attributes that DJs learn are of great use in sales and life in general… as long as you realize that there is more to being a DJ than C&F…
Delta
Master Don Juan
get it straight - being AFC or DJ does not necessarily have anything to do with success in life.
delta
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Delta
Master Don Juan
bill gates is AFC. napoleon was AFC. there are all kinds of UBER SUCCESSFUL MALES in the history of the world who not only were not DJ but not ALPHA!
as i've said elsewhere, ULTRA COMPETENCE or even EXPERTISE in a given area CAN MAKE YOU RICH. but such skill says nearly nothing about how you rate on the AFC - DJ scale.
most people here just have a ridiculous difficulty in saying that bill gates is AFC simply because they equate success with alpha and djness....
but the nerds in math and chess club in high school, these guys end up doing spectacularly well in certain fields.
bill gates IS afc ... ********
delta
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Delta
Master Don Juan
there are tons of guys, tons of AFCs whose problem exists in ONE AREA ONLY. they have their lives together, they are successful and good at what they do.
but... they can't get chicks to save their lives.
confidence in one area of life does not automatically or necessarily translate into another.
also, supreme confidence combined with absolute incompetence is one of the most entertainingly hilarious things you will ever witness.
delta
Even people who go to good universities and have top professional jobs are still only considered upper middle class. Small Business owners are considered Lower Middle Class as a rule. You CAN be a millionaire when you are old, though...if you start putting $1 a day into a Mutual Fund from the time you are 18.
If you're lazy you will never be rich...sales is considered lower middle class as well. I'm studying social class and stratification in Sociology right now...well, last week. Tomorrow is my final. The top prestigious job in the US right now is lawyer. It's ranked higher than even a doctor. However, being a lawyer requires a lot of college. Better hit the books now.LAWYER said:
ANYONE can be a lawyer. Heck, go to your County (Courthouse) and I'm sure you will see a bunch of underpaid lawyers there.
All you need is an undergraduate degree on ANYTHING (music, English, Latin, History, etc.).
However, only a handful of people can be Engineers/Scientists/Physicists/Chemists/Geologies. And most are already from Non-U.S.A. nations.
In a nutshell...any good engineer can be a doctor (medicine) or a lawyer. But a great lawyer (or doctor) cannot necessary transition into becoming an engineer.
Engineers MUST have analytical mind. Hard core math/science. While Lawyers and Doctors only need the ability to read and memorize things.
Why is he a failure? He is married to a woman that is loyal to him. A woman that turned out to be the "CORRECT" woman in the essense that she has not divorced him and taken half of his fortune. A woman that literally supports his goals.Delta said:
If anything...Bill Gates is a clear indication of a man that has it ALL:
1- Fortune
2- Power
3- the right woman
4- the right family
5- the ability to give and be happy
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.