"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Business... Is Life... Is Women.... DJ's should be rich...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
CactusMcDougal
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Master Don Juan
Not only do you learn social skills to the fullest extent, but you also learn 90% of the business tactics you're going to need in the real world. My sales job was like my college for me. College is more like a vacation than something to prepare me for life.
3 Years later, I'm in college with my own company.. I owe it all to getting into Sales.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Chemistry
Master Don Juan
The concepts of selling yourself are exactly the same because people buy products if they like the person too… the drive and motivation to resist knockbacks that DJs must also possess is key for sales because sales is never a 100% success rate…
But yea… the attributes that DJs learn are of great use in sales and life in general… as long as you realize that there is more to being a DJ than C&F…
Delta
Master Don Juan
get it straight - being AFC or DJ does not necessarily have anything to do with success in life.
delta
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Delta
Master Don Juan
bill gates is AFC. napoleon was AFC. there are all kinds of UBER SUCCESSFUL MALES in the history of the world who not only were not DJ but not ALPHA!
as i've said elsewhere, ULTRA COMPETENCE or even EXPERTISE in a given area CAN MAKE YOU RICH. but such skill says nearly nothing about how you rate on the AFC - DJ scale.
most people here just have a ridiculous difficulty in saying that bill gates is AFC simply because they equate success with alpha and djness....
but the nerds in math and chess club in high school, these guys end up doing spectacularly well in certain fields.
bill gates IS afc ... ********
delta
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Delta
Master Don Juan
there are tons of guys, tons of AFCs whose problem exists in ONE AREA ONLY. they have their lives together, they are successful and good at what they do.
but... they can't get chicks to save their lives.
confidence in one area of life does not automatically or necessarily translate into another.
also, supreme confidence combined with absolute incompetence is one of the most entertainingly hilarious things you will ever witness.
delta
Even people who go to good universities and have top professional jobs are still only considered upper middle class. Small Business owners are considered Lower Middle Class as a rule. You CAN be a millionaire when you are old, though...if you start putting $1 a day into a Mutual Fund from the time you are 18.
If you're lazy you will never be rich...sales is considered lower middle class as well. I'm studying social class and stratification in Sociology right now...well, last week. Tomorrow is my final. The top prestigious job in the US right now is lawyer. It's ranked higher than even a doctor. However, being a lawyer requires a lot of college. Better hit the books now.LAWYER said:
ANYONE can be a lawyer. Heck, go to your County (Courthouse) and I'm sure you will see a bunch of underpaid lawyers there.
All you need is an undergraduate degree on ANYTHING (music, English, Latin, History, etc.).
However, only a handful of people can be Engineers/Scientists/Physicists/Chemists/Geologies. And most are already from Non-U.S.A. nations.
In a nutshell...any good engineer can be a doctor (medicine) or a lawyer. But a great lawyer (or doctor) cannot necessary transition into becoming an engineer.
Engineers MUST have analytical mind. Hard core math/science. While Lawyers and Doctors only need the ability to read and memorize things.
Why is he a failure? He is married to a woman that is loyal to him. A woman that turned out to be the "CORRECT" woman in the essense that she has not divorced him and taken half of his fortune. A woman that literally supports his goals.Delta said:
If anything...Bill Gates is a clear indication of a man that has it ALL:
1- Fortune
2- Power
3- the right woman
4- the right family
5- the ability to give and be happy
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.