Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How does one find themselves -- the best routine for oneself?Originally posted by Warboss Alex
There's no need to gain any fat while gaining muscle.
However, I can't answer your questions since they're entirely dependent on you. If I told you I do four morning cardio sessions a week at 30 minutes a time after taking 400mg green tea extract and take a good brisk walk every evening plus that I cut out all starchy carbs a few hours before bed, avoid milk but eat cottage cheese and don't use Daz washing powder because it gives me a rash, would you do the same? You could but there's hardly any chance it'd be exactly what you need.
This sport is all about finding about YOURSELF. What works for you and what doesn't, what foods/food combinations you can eat to optimally gain while controlling or even lowering bodyfat - it takes time, trial and error. I put on fat and lost muscle to find out what worked for me and I'm still learning even after several years of training.
Cardio will NOT inhibit your mass gains, that's one of the most stupidest bodybuilding fallacies ever (and there's a few for sure!) - however I don't mean that a 3-hour run every day by cardio, I mean basic sessions of low-intensity and HIIT to control bodyfat and promote cardiovascular health; some people have issues with running and losing leg mass, others don't - I can't do HIIT regularly and train legs at peak efficiency, maybe you can, I don't know.
You'll have to find that out here - I suggest 3-4 a.m. cardio sessions of 20-30 minutes on an empty stomach (on your offdays); that's enough to be getting on with, take things from there. Maybe you'll be able to get away with two sessions or maybe your lifestyle'll keep you lean, I don't know - you'll just have to see.
Your size shouldn't inhibit your routines in any way, start off with compound exercises, low weights and good form, progress steadily and there's no reason why you won't gain muscle. Being short is an advantage here - most olympic weightlifters aren't very tall. (I'm talking about the lifting, not aesthetic merits)
But really, for now all you have concentrate on is learning the basic exercises - squats, deadlifts, presses and rows plus dips and chinups and EATING. Eat your arse off (quality food though) and see how you go. Don't think, just do - after a month check your weight/waist etc and see where you are. From then on, make adjustments. Good luck mate!
Fitch is not a beginner. His question asked about how to find out what's best for someone - and you can only do that by getting on some sort of basic split and changing stuff around until you're making the progress you want.**** using a split for a begginer.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.