You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How does one find themselves -- the best routine for oneself?Originally posted by Warboss Alex
There's no need to gain any fat while gaining muscle.
However, I can't answer your questions since they're entirely dependent on you. If I told you I do four morning cardio sessions a week at 30 minutes a time after taking 400mg green tea extract and take a good brisk walk every evening plus that I cut out all starchy carbs a few hours before bed, avoid milk but eat cottage cheese and don't use Daz washing powder because it gives me a rash, would you do the same? You could but there's hardly any chance it'd be exactly what you need.
This sport is all about finding about YOURSELF. What works for you and what doesn't, what foods/food combinations you can eat to optimally gain while controlling or even lowering bodyfat - it takes time, trial and error. I put on fat and lost muscle to find out what worked for me and I'm still learning even after several years of training.
Cardio will NOT inhibit your mass gains, that's one of the most stupidest bodybuilding fallacies ever (and there's a few for sure!) - however I don't mean that a 3-hour run every day by cardio, I mean basic sessions of low-intensity and HIIT to control bodyfat and promote cardiovascular health; some people have issues with running and losing leg mass, others don't - I can't do HIIT regularly and train legs at peak efficiency, maybe you can, I don't know.
You'll have to find that out here - I suggest 3-4 a.m. cardio sessions of 20-30 minutes on an empty stomach (on your offdays); that's enough to be getting on with, take things from there. Maybe you'll be able to get away with two sessions or maybe your lifestyle'll keep you lean, I don't know - you'll just have to see.
Your size shouldn't inhibit your routines in any way, start off with compound exercises, low weights and good form, progress steadily and there's no reason why you won't gain muscle. Being short is an advantage here - most olympic weightlifters aren't very tall. (I'm talking about the lifting, not aesthetic merits)
But really, for now all you have concentrate on is learning the basic exercises - squats, deadlifts, presses and rows plus dips and chinups and EATING. Eat your arse off (quality food though) and see how you go. Don't think, just do - after a month check your weight/waist etc and see where you are. From then on, make adjustments. Good luck mate!
Fitch is not a beginner. His question asked about how to find out what's best for someone - and you can only do that by getting on some sort of basic split and changing stuff around until you're making the progress you want.**** using a split for a begginer.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.