"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Building deep rapport.

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I have no problem making a girl laugh when I first meet her. I make her laugh by messing around, telling jokes, misinterpreting and being sarcastic. The girl enjoys my company but I can tell that the rapport i'm building by entertaining her is very superficial. I feel that there is no emotional connecting between me and the gril.

How do I take it to the next level and build a rapport/trust with the girl that is comparable to the rapport/trust between best friends?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I got this.....

This was one of my problems BIG time. I would keep teasing and entertaining, but I would get nowhere. All you have to do, after you got her interested and kept her through the intial stage, is ask more personal questions. Simple.

This is where the conversation skills come in. Ask her name, where she is from, what is she doing, what did she do this weekend. It is important to get her involved in the conversation. If she willingly gets involved, then you know she is interested and can pursue something else.

For example, you just met a chick at subway and teased her about her choice of sandwich, how can she put mustard on a sandwich, doesn't she know that it is only for hotdogs?:p

Intro yourself exchange names.
Where is she from?
Her: blah, blah, blah (she is now contributing to the conv, she didn't have to tell you)
You: I hear that it is (blah blah) there, where I'm from it is (blah blah)

[this gives her two threads to talk about, what it is like where she is from, or asks where you are from, If she continues the conv. from this point, you are in.]

You/Her: Continue conversation

You can now sit and eat with her, or you can get her number and leave.


The more interesting and longer conversation you had with her results in a better chance of her not flaking at a later time.
 

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Cronus said:
This was one of my problems BIG time. I would keep teasing and entertaining, but I would get nowhere. All you have to do, after you got her interested and kept her through the intial stage, is ask more personal questions. Simple.

This is where the conversation skills come in. Ask her name, where she is from, what is she doing, what did she do this weekend. It is important to get her involved in the conversation. If she willingly gets involved, then you know she is interested and can pursue something else.

For example, you just met a chick at subway and teased her about her choice of sandwich, how can she put mustard on a sandwich, doesn't she know that it is only for hotdogs?:p

Intro yourself exchange names.
Where is she from?
Her: blah, blah, blah (she is now contributing to the conv, she didn't have to tell you)
You: I hear that it is (blah blah) there, where I'm from it is (blah blah)

[this gives her two threads to talk about, what it is like where she is from, or asks where you are from, If she continues the conv. from this point, you are in.]

You/Her: Continue conversation

You can now sit and eat with her, or you can get her number and leave.


The more interesting and longer conversation you had with her results in a better chance of her not flaking at a later time.
yes! you can funny while your doing this... so you can be ur self while getting deeper and deeper with the convo.
 

david90

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Cronus said:
This was one of my problems BIG time. I would keep teasing and entertaining, but I would get nowhere. All you have to do, after you got her interested and kept her through the intial stage, is ask more personal questions. Simple.

This is where the conversation skills come in. Ask her name, where she is from, what is she doing, what did she do this weekend. It is important to get her involved in the conversation. If she willingly gets involved, then you know she is interested and can pursue something else.

For example, you just met a chick at subway and teased her about her choice of sandwich, how can she put mustard on a sandwich, doesn't she know that it is only for hotdogs?:p

Intro yourself exchange names.
Where is she from?
Her: blah, blah, blah (she is now contributing to the conv, she didn't have to tell you)
You: I hear that it is (blah blah) there, where I'm from it is (blah blah)

[this gives her two threads to talk about, what it is like where she is from, or asks where you are from, If she continues the conv. from this point, you are in.]

You/Her: Continue conversation

You can now sit and eat with her, or you can get her number and leave.


The more interesting and longer conversation you had with her results in a better chance of her not flaking at a later time.
Any other tips? Is there a thread that you recommend me reading? Where the heck is the bible?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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