"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rollo Tomassi said:
I should also add that it's this very facility that makes women hate it (when they do). Porn gives a guy his reward for free; a reward that should be her single best agency is rendered valueless when a man can get off to an infinite variety of sexual experience at the click of a mouse. It's unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability.
Hmm, interesting. I can see how if you are seeing somebody, using "I love porn and will continue to enjoy it even if we are together" tactic can get you an upper hand in the relationship.

But I thought women hated their men watching porn because it was another form of cheating? I guess that's what you're trying to get at there.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BAT, the idea that a man viewing / using porn is equitable to infidelity is a feminine operative convention - namely shame. Women masturbating is liberating or empowering, if not downright sexy. A man masturbating is failure, perversion and vile. Why do you suppose that is? What would be the latent function or purpose of this social convention? It reinforces women's sexuality as being a prize to be sure, but if men can (and regularly do) achieve that same prize (or can simulate it well enough) her sexuality as a commodity becomes devalued. Therefore male self-pleasuring deprives her of her first best agency with men.

Thats from the feminine side of the equation. The Buffer for men is that by chronically masturbating and rewarding himself solo, he loses the motivation to learn the social skills necessary to interact successfully with women.
 

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Latinoman said:
There is no way I could out DJ a man in his 40s or 50s for the attention of a woman in her 40s. Heck, it is very difficult to out DJ a man in his 40s for a woman in her mid 30s. Although, I can out DJ them (men in 40s+ and 20s) for women in their upper 20s and 30s. It is what it is.
Tell you what, you don't have to worry about a 45 y.o. man like me competing against you for the mid 30's women. I'll go for the young 20's. :yes:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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