Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Rollo Tomassi said:
I should also add that it's this very facility that makes women hate it (when they do). Porn gives a guy his reward for free; a reward that should be her single best agency is rendered valueless when a man can get off to an infinite variety of sexual experience at the click of a mouse. It's unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability.
Hmm, interesting. I can see how if you are seeing somebody, using "I love porn and will continue to enjoy it even if we are together" tactic can get you an upper hand in the relationship.

But I thought women hated their men watching porn because it was another form of cheating? I guess that's what you're trying to get at there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BAT, the idea that a man viewing / using porn is equitable to infidelity is a feminine operative convention - namely shame. Women masturbating is liberating or empowering, if not downright sexy. A man masturbating is failure, perversion and vile. Why do you suppose that is? What would be the latent function or purpose of this social convention? It reinforces women's sexuality as being a prize to be sure, but if men can (and regularly do) achieve that same prize (or can simulate it well enough) her sexuality as a commodity becomes devalued. Therefore male self-pleasuring deprives her of her first best agency with men.

Thats from the feminine side of the equation. The Buffer for men is that by chronically masturbating and rewarding himself solo, he loses the motivation to learn the social skills necessary to interact successfully with women.
 

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Latinoman said:
There is no way I could out DJ a man in his 40s or 50s for the attention of a woman in her 40s. Heck, it is very difficult to out DJ a man in his 40s for a woman in her mid 30s. Although, I can out DJ them (men in 40s+ and 20s) for women in their upper 20s and 30s. It is what it is.
Tell you what, you don't have to worry about a 45 y.o. man like me competing against you for the mid 30's women. I'll go for the young 20's. :yes:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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