My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. She said that it's because I was not emotional enough with her and never expressed my feelings, the relationship felt like we were just friends with benefits. We were going out for nine months. The break up made me relised that I love her. I feel incredibly sick right now. I want to be with her again. I don't think I will be able to refrain from no-contact. I feel like since she felt like i did not care about her no-contact might not be the best approach. Am I right. I want to meet with her in person again and tell her I lover her. Is this the right thing to do?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Broke Up =(
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Take the battery out of your phone right now. RIGHT NOW.
You don't love this chick. You don't you don't you don't.
You're going to expeience a post breakup lapse. DO NOT beg to be with her. Cut off ALL contact.
The road ahead is tough one, but it's the one to self-improvement. You lost her, but looking back you'll learn something new. Move on, dude. Even if it hurts.
You don't love this chick. You don't you don't you don't.
You're going to expeience a post breakup lapse. DO NOT beg to be with her. Cut off ALL contact.
The road ahead is tough one, but it's the one to self-improvement. You lost her, but looking back you'll learn something new. Move on, dude. Even if it hurts.
novaknight
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Yeah man. I feel you Boxer, I've been seeing your posts around for awhile, saw you mention her a couple times obviously she was a very important girl.
Having said that, you mention
You can stop this...just trtalk to other plates for a bit, go out and run **** maybe wack off for a bit just keep your mind off her and when you're ready to come back and approach this with a level head, then maybe talk to her.
Hopefully my post wasn't just noise lol, I feel you man. all the best.
Having said that, you mention
That don't make no sense lol. Are you basically confirming what she said, that the nine months you dated was only FWB?Boxer said:
Come on dude. Are you thinking with your brain, or with your ****?
You can stop this...just trtalk to other plates for a bit, go out and run **** maybe wack off for a bit just keep your mind off her and when you're ready to come back and approach this with a level head, then maybe talk to her.
Hopefully my post wasn't just noise lol, I feel you man. all the best.