"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Broke my arm - workout?

Huffman

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Howdy! I broke my right elbow some 5 weeks ago after some painful bike accident!
The fracture is fixated with wires and I am able to almost fully move the arm, but I cannot put any weight on it (my triceps has almost disappeared). The doctor says I should wait another 1-2 months before putting heavy strain on it.

But I want to keep the rest of my body fit! I'm going crazy just sitting around.

I've started working out again, but I can't do most of the things I usually do (pullups, pushups, bench press etc).
What kind of exercises can you recommend for training shoulders/back/chest/Torso in general?
The deal is: no pressure on the right arm, including biceps, triceps and the bones in the elbow.

At the moment I'm only doing legs and abs - have some creative ideas? :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dont be a dumbass. Just keep doing legs and abs, unless you want to f*ck up your arm even more.
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
Dont be a dumbass. Just keep doing legs and abs, unless you want to f*ck up your arm even more.
i agree with him.
 

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Legs, abs, and maybe some hyperextensions for your lower back.

Other than that, work on your diet. Then when doc says you're free to go, start training arms/chest/shoulders.
 

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Yeah, I already said I'm not doing anything with the arm. Just wanted to check with you guys if there's any easy exercise I'm missing... well apparently not.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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you can still squat though right?
 

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YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!

Just now I did my first pushup, after some 17 weeks of sitting around.
And it feels ****ING GREAT! :trouble:
 
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I wouldn't squat. Way too difficult to stabilize the bar with only 1 good arm.

Stick to leg press until your arm heals up.
 

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Yeah, I didn't do any.
But as I said, yesterday I managed my first pushup and also a pullup with both arms, so I'll be hitting the gym in a couple of days! Finally.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do snatches with the left arm, DB curls, overhead press, whatever you can grab in the left arm. I forgot where i read it but when you work out one arm the other improves in strength regardless of you using it, to maintain balance it shifts over like 20% of gains or something. Your broken right arm will get stronger because your lifting with your left. So dont stop working out thats for sure.
 

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Huffman said:
Howdy! I broke my right elbow some 5 weeks ago after some painful bike accident!
The fracture is fixated with wires and I am able to almost fully move the arm, but I cannot put any weight on it (my triceps has almost disappeared). The doctor says I should wait another 1-2 months before putting heavy strain on it.

But I want to keep the rest of my body fit! I'm going crazy just sitting around.
And how do you expect to be fit if you ruin the arm again?

Don't be a candidate: The Darwin Awards.
 

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I know exactly how you feel. A year ago I completely screwed up my knee and was on crutches for 2 months. Now, I strained something in my wrist and can't put ANY stress on it for 4-6 weeks. Not to mention I'm sick lol. Anyway, I have a stability ball at home so I've been using that for abs and I've been doing regular, unweighted squats (not much more I can do).
 
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