"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Breasts and Gut
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Warboss Alex
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You wanna curl your hair?
Warboss Alex
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Couldn't possibly be suggesting that curling weights gives you muscle, could he?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
iHatePants
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seems like you have no idea what to do.
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No sh!t. That's why he's asking what to do. Cmon now. Alright man you definitely need to cut. Click here to learn all about that. It's also stickied at the top of this forum. And by curling I'm pretty certain you're talking about bicep curls. Your going to need some dumbbells for that. Either join a gym or make a home gym. I workout at home and I can tell you that all you need to work out your whole body is two dumbbell bars, a good amount of weight plates and a bench. You don't need any of those fancy machines or anything, free weights are better. Good luck dude.
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No power/squat rack?
Thank you!
Thanks for being the ONLY one to not make fun of me. People come here for help but then most of you all treat them like crap...is that the way you treat other respectable guys trying to become a DJ? Jesus Christ...
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You're being made fun of because you're asking very basic questions which have been answered before, and you can find the info you want through the stickies or using the search function.
I'm surprised the mods didn't lock this topic actually..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MetalFortress
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It is when they say that they want to curl to "get some muscle". The only muscle you'll get by curling is in your biceps. Conversely, you'll get muscle EVERYWHERE with the big lifts, such as squats, deadlifts, and bench presses. I don't even curl, yet my arms are growing fast because I do so many chin-ups.
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You won't even get biceps from curling. Try doing 100 bicep curls 3 times a week - I guarantee your arms will stay exactly the same size.
Ken, it's Gynecomastia, and it's not JUST reversible with surgery. Nolvadex can help with it - although man boobs can just be fat. Men store adipose in their chest same as anywhere else..
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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What the hell are you talking about? The guy has a high body fat % (as evident by his post), thus the fat around his chest is causing the breasts to swell. If he runs on a treadmill, eats right, and lifts weights they will decrease.
If you do bicep curls with some weights you'll definatly see them grow. I used to do no exercises at all, except bicep curls, and I could see them get bigger every 2-3 weeks in the first 2 months. After that it didn't go as fast, but I'm still making gains, even 2 years later.Maybe you just didn't do the curls correctly, because I seriously can't see how this couldn't work for anybody.
A little advice for Juggalo: If you're going to do bicep curls you should always keep your arms against your side to isolate the bicep, and you should offcourse never use your back. Also do it in a controlled manner, so don't "throw" them in the air.
Alpine
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If you have man boobs and you are fat, they probably will go as you get thinner, there may however be some residual gyno which you might have to live with or elect to undergo surgery.
I agree with everyone about arm curls, everybody when they start off focusses on bloody curling, for now just get the fat and tits off and start learning about weight training.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.