Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You wanna curl your hair?I'm thinking about curling some, too. I wanna get some muscle...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
seems like you have no idea what to do.Originally posted by Juggalo
I have "man boobs" and I have a decent gut...
I'm looking to lose my gut and most of all...my "man boobs"
I'm thinking about curling some, too. I wanna get some muscle...
Suggestions and advice would be appreciated!
No sh!t. That's why he's asking what to do. Cmon now. Alright man you definitely need to cut. Click here to learn all about that. It's also stickied at the top of this forum. And by curling I'm pretty certain you're talking about bicep curls. Your going to need some dumbbells for that. Either join a gym or make a home gym. I workout at home and I can tell you that all you need to work out your whole body is two dumbbell bars, a good amount of weight plates and a bench. You don't need any of those fancy machines or anything, free weights are better. Good luck dude.Originally posted by iHatePants
seems like you have no idea what to do.
No power/squat rack?I workout at home and I can tell you that all you need to work out your whole body is two dumbbell bars, a good amount of weight plates and a bench.
Thank you!Originally posted by eggnawgkid
No sh!t. That's why he's asking what to do. Cmon now. Alright man you definitely need to cut. Click here to learn all about that. It's also stickied at the top of this forum. And by curling I'm pretty certain you're talking about bicep curls. Your going to need some dumbbells for that. Either join a gym or make a home gym. I workout at home and I can tell you that all you need to work out your whole body is two dumbbell bars, a good amount of weight plates and a bench. You don't need any of those fancy machines or anything, free weights are better. Good luck dude.
You're being made fun of because you're asking very basic questions which have been answered before, and you can find the info you want through the stickies or using the search function.Originally posted by Juggalo
Thank you!
Thanks for being the ONLY one to not make fun of me. People come here for help but then most of you all treat them like crap...is that the way you treat other respectable guys trying to become a DJ? Jesus Christ...
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
It is when they say that they want to curl to "get some muscle". The only muscle you'll get by curling is in your biceps. Conversely, you'll get muscle EVERYWHERE with the big lifts, such as squats, deadlifts, and bench presses. I don't even curl, yet my arms are growing fast because I do so many chin-ups.Originally posted by Juggalo
Thank you!
Thanks for being the ONLY one to not make fun of me. People come here for help but then most of you all treat them like crap...is that the way you treat other respectable guys trying to become a DJ? Jesus Christ...
You won't even get biceps from curling. Try doing 100 bicep curls 3 times a week - I guarantee your arms will stay exactly the same size.Originally posted by MetalFortress
It is when they say that they want to curl to "get some muscle". The only muscle you'll get by curling is in your biceps. Conversely, you'll get muscle EVERYWHERE with the big lifts, such as squats, deadlifts, and bench presses. I don't even curl, yet my arms are growing fast because I do so many chin-ups.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What the hell are you talking about? The guy has a high body fat % (as evident by his post), thus the fat around his chest is causing the breasts to swell. If he runs on a treadmill, eats right, and lifts weights they will decrease.Originally posted by Ken785
those man boobs are called "GYNO" short or "Gynaclasma" or something. the only way to remove those is surgury bro. sorry. thats like $5000 out your pocket.
If you do bicep curls with some weights you'll definatly see them grow. I used to do no exercises at all, except bicep curls, and I could see them get bigger every 2-3 weeks in the first 2 months. After that it didn't go as fast, but I'm still making gains, even 2 years later.Maybe you just didn't do the curls correctly, because I seriously can't see how this couldn't work for anybody.Originally posted by Warboss Alex
So did I. And I tell you, purely working your biceps won't make them grow very much at all.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.