Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You wanna curl your hair?I'm thinking about curling some, too. I wanna get some muscle...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
seems like you have no idea what to do.Originally posted by Juggalo
I have "man boobs" and I have a decent gut...
I'm looking to lose my gut and most of all...my "man boobs"
I'm thinking about curling some, too. I wanna get some muscle...
Suggestions and advice would be appreciated!
No sh!t. That's why he's asking what to do. Cmon now. Alright man you definitely need to cut. Click here to learn all about that. It's also stickied at the top of this forum. And by curling I'm pretty certain you're talking about bicep curls. Your going to need some dumbbells for that. Either join a gym or make a home gym. I workout at home and I can tell you that all you need to work out your whole body is two dumbbell bars, a good amount of weight plates and a bench. You don't need any of those fancy machines or anything, free weights are better. Good luck dude.Originally posted by iHatePants
seems like you have no idea what to do.
No power/squat rack?I workout at home and I can tell you that all you need to work out your whole body is two dumbbell bars, a good amount of weight plates and a bench.
Thank you!Originally posted by eggnawgkid
No sh!t. That's why he's asking what to do. Cmon now. Alright man you definitely need to cut. Click here to learn all about that. It's also stickied at the top of this forum. And by curling I'm pretty certain you're talking about bicep curls. Your going to need some dumbbells for that. Either join a gym or make a home gym. I workout at home and I can tell you that all you need to work out your whole body is two dumbbell bars, a good amount of weight plates and a bench. You don't need any of those fancy machines or anything, free weights are better. Good luck dude.
You're being made fun of because you're asking very basic questions which have been answered before, and you can find the info you want through the stickies or using the search function.Originally posted by Juggalo
Thank you!
Thanks for being the ONLY one to not make fun of me. People come here for help but then most of you all treat them like crap...is that the way you treat other respectable guys trying to become a DJ? Jesus Christ...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It is when they say that they want to curl to "get some muscle". The only muscle you'll get by curling is in your biceps. Conversely, you'll get muscle EVERYWHERE with the big lifts, such as squats, deadlifts, and bench presses. I don't even curl, yet my arms are growing fast because I do so many chin-ups.Originally posted by Juggalo
Thank you!
Thanks for being the ONLY one to not make fun of me. People come here for help but then most of you all treat them like crap...is that the way you treat other respectable guys trying to become a DJ? Jesus Christ...
You won't even get biceps from curling. Try doing 100 bicep curls 3 times a week - I guarantee your arms will stay exactly the same size.Originally posted by MetalFortress
It is when they say that they want to curl to "get some muscle". The only muscle you'll get by curling is in your biceps. Conversely, you'll get muscle EVERYWHERE with the big lifts, such as squats, deadlifts, and bench presses. I don't even curl, yet my arms are growing fast because I do so many chin-ups.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What the hell are you talking about? The guy has a high body fat % (as evident by his post), thus the fat around his chest is causing the breasts to swell. If he runs on a treadmill, eats right, and lifts weights they will decrease.Originally posted by Ken785
those man boobs are called "GYNO" short or "Gynaclasma" or something. the only way to remove those is surgury bro. sorry. thats like $5000 out your pocket.
If you do bicep curls with some weights you'll definatly see them grow. I used to do no exercises at all, except bicep curls, and I could see them get bigger every 2-3 weeks in the first 2 months. After that it didn't go as fast, but I'm still making gains, even 2 years later.Maybe you just didn't do the curls correctly, because I seriously can't see how this couldn't work for anybody.Originally posted by Warboss Alex
So did I. And I tell you, purely working your biceps won't make them grow very much at all.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.