"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Breaking her hurt softly?

Patrick124

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I used to date this girl, a year older than I, shes graduated and leaving for college in a month, my first real relationship. We went for like 4 monthes and then I started acting less and less interested in her to try and i guess prepare her for when i dumped her. I dumped her, she cried, told me ti was unfair, that i shouldn't have treated her badly blah blah blah.
after 2 weeks of not talking really and then 3 weeks of vacation I came back and we started talking and fvcking again. and now shes getting all pressed again.
And tonight I'm going to a party and i had plans of trying to get with another girl there, but since apparently shes going, I cant even try[though i will dance with every girl there lol]. I want to be able to have sex with her whenever, but be able to get with whoever I want as well[the girls who all leave in a month..i want a few of them under my belt lol.]
I guess I've kinda done some boyfriendish-like things such as helping her yesterday since she just got her wisdom teeth yanked..but dammit.
Any tips on making it clear I want to jsut be friends with benefits? or just end it all together cause its goign to happen sooner or later?
what would you do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LikRetsam

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I like to make a distinction between fvck buddies and friends with benefits.

You want the former. Tell her so.
 

UltimateScoundrel

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This girl is really attracted to you, and in more than a physical way. You either have to make a definite choice between dating her and persuing others, or do both and risk seeming like an *******.
 
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