"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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frivolousz21

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ok..so I had the online..date last night..here is the issue..

it was great..I mean perfect...except.she is heavier than I thought..not fat at all..but I like thinner women..but I care..now I dont know what to do....I dont know!

I know that most likely overtime I will stop caring because of her size..which is not that big...but not what I want.

but I am attached..I will see her 1 more time and if I dont feel right about this..I will let it go!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MrCode

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Don't feel guilty because you have certain standards that you prefer women to meet.

It sounds like you already made the decision to give her another try and see how it goes. I think that is fine.

If you decide to drop her, so be it. She may not like it, but honestly you don't owe her anything. But this just goes to show how much of a waste internet-based relationships can be...
 

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but I am attached
I think you mean that you're "attracted" even though she's not what you're looking for physically, and what the hell is wrong with that? What's better, a physically attractive woman who steals all your money and treats you like 5hit, or a woman who's looks average and stimulates your mind and your d1ck?
 

frivolousz21

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lol...to be honest a big ass is a huge turn on for me and a lot of guys! :)


but your right I owe her nothing..but I care about her....dj or not...or even close to being a DJ..she is a human being..and I will give her a fair shot..as she did me...

and your right Internet relationships are mostly a waste....

you have to be physically ATTRACTED before you become EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED..

she is probably 5 3 140...:)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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frivolousz21

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I think you mean that you're "attracted" even though she's not what you're looking for physically, and what the hell is wrong with that? What's better, a physically attractive woman who steals all your money, or a woman who's looks average and stimulates your mind and your d1ck?
you are 100000 percent correct...I am attracted to her..when we meet..I kissed her in 5 secs :)..it was over then..I knew it she knew it...I will see what happens after the next date.
 

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by MrCode
Don't feel guilty because you have certain standards that you prefer women to meet.

It sounds like you already made the decision to give her another try and see how it goes. I think that is fine.

If you decide to drop her, so be it. She may not like it, but honestly you don't owe her anything. But this just goes to show how much of a waste internet-based relationships can be...
A lot of non-internet based relationships can be a waste of time too :rolleyes:
 

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you're damn right friv, she's human like anyone else, chance her mate. i hardly doubt the results would be disappointing. :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nachos wonders what she looks like.

Will you upload a photo?
 

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Originally posted by nachos
Nachos wonders what she looks like.

Will you upload a photo?
Quit speaking in 3rd person, its annoying and stupid.
 
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