"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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frivolousz21

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ok..so I had the online..date last night..here is the issue..

it was great..I mean perfect...except.she is heavier than I thought..not fat at all..but I like thinner women..but I care..now I dont know what to do....I dont know!

I know that most likely overtime I will stop caring because of her size..which is not that big...but not what I want.

but I am attached..I will see her 1 more time and if I dont feel right about this..I will let it go!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MrCode

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Don't feel guilty because you have certain standards that you prefer women to meet.

It sounds like you already made the decision to give her another try and see how it goes. I think that is fine.

If you decide to drop her, so be it. She may not like it, but honestly you don't owe her anything. But this just goes to show how much of a waste internet-based relationships can be...
 

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but I am attached
I think you mean that you're "attracted" even though she's not what you're looking for physically, and what the hell is wrong with that? What's better, a physically attractive woman who steals all your money and treats you like 5hit, or a woman who's looks average and stimulates your mind and your d1ck?
 

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lol...to be honest a big ass is a huge turn on for me and a lot of guys! :)


but your right I owe her nothing..but I care about her....dj or not...or even close to being a DJ..she is a human being..and I will give her a fair shot..as she did me...

and your right Internet relationships are mostly a waste....

you have to be physically ATTRACTED before you become EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED..

she is probably 5 3 140...:)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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frivolousz21

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I think you mean that you're "attracted" even though she's not what you're looking for physically, and what the hell is wrong with that? What's better, a physically attractive woman who steals all your money, or a woman who's looks average and stimulates your mind and your d1ck?
you are 100000 percent correct...I am attracted to her..when we meet..I kissed her in 5 secs :)..it was over then..I knew it she knew it...I will see what happens after the next date.
 

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by MrCode
Don't feel guilty because you have certain standards that you prefer women to meet.

It sounds like you already made the decision to give her another try and see how it goes. I think that is fine.

If you decide to drop her, so be it. She may not like it, but honestly you don't owe her anything. But this just goes to show how much of a waste internet-based relationships can be...
A lot of non-internet based relationships can be a waste of time too :rolleyes:
 

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you're damn right friv, she's human like anyone else, chance her mate. i hardly doubt the results would be disappointing. :D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Nachos wonders what she looks like.

Will you upload a photo?
 

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Originally posted by nachos
Nachos wonders what she looks like.

Will you upload a photo?
Quit speaking in 3rd person, its annoying and stupid.
 
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