She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."DJ1234 said:Just wondering.....you guys that are wanting to use this stuff...are you even the least bit worried that you're going to lose the girl once you get her after using this and some other guy comes along and uses this $h!t on her and STEALS/SAVES her from you?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Exactly, supposedly there isn't much you can do about it, according to another thread...it's really up to the girl...Axcell said:Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MooseGod said:It all depends on what stage of the relationship she's in. If it's a couple weeks or a month into it, you might have a harder time, whereas if they've been dating for a year and she's sick of his crap but doesn't want to leave the security of a relationship you have a lot better chance.
I might also add that you don't look for LTRs doing this. Any chick who would cheat on her boyfriend with you is likely to do the same with some other guy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wouldn't that be manipulation? In the end the girl has to want to be with you not some other dude. The only reasonable option in your case would be to keep her tied up.Axcell said:Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."
I wouldn't go that far. Strong and smart doesn't necessarily get women, the former helps but the latter rarely does. It's usually about spiking her emotions and acting all fake as if you're Mr Cool and Confident, aka. "game". There are, by my definitions, wusses who have a decent gf. Life isn't always fair, infact it's pretty messed up. Conversely, some guys do deserve their gf (and/or better).mongolboy said:Ye totally agreed this is a DOG EAT DOG WORLD! yall if u dont knowhas been and only the strongest and smartest survive which is why all the wussies never get pussies
Well, this thread is practically all manipulation as well. However, in this case you are manipulating a woman's mind to believe that she can do much better than her current boyfriend, and that you are the better man.Play the Game said:Wouldn't that be manipulation? In the end the girl has to want to be with you not some other dude. The only reasonable option in your case would be to keep her tied up.![]()
If I knew how to do that. I got no goddamn clue.Play the Game said:Remember: You have to build attraction from the start, that way you're put into the potential bf category at the beginning of the game!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.