She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."DJ1234 said:Just wondering.....you guys that are wanting to use this stuff...are you even the least bit worried that you're going to lose the girl once you get her after using this and some other guy comes along and uses this $h!t on her and STEALS/SAVES her from you?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Exactly, supposedly there isn't much you can do about it, according to another thread...it's really up to the girl...Axcell said:Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MooseGod said:It all depends on what stage of the relationship she's in. If it's a couple weeks or a month into it, you might have a harder time, whereas if they've been dating for a year and she's sick of his crap but doesn't want to leave the security of a relationship you have a lot better chance.
I might also add that you don't look for LTRs doing this. Any chick who would cheat on her boyfriend with you is likely to do the same with some other guy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Wouldn't that be manipulation? In the end the girl has to want to be with you not some other dude. The only reasonable option in your case would be to keep her tied up.Axcell said:Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."
I wouldn't go that far. Strong and smart doesn't necessarily get women, the former helps but the latter rarely does. It's usually about spiking her emotions and acting all fake as if you're Mr Cool and Confident, aka. "game". There are, by my definitions, wusses who have a decent gf. Life isn't always fair, infact it's pretty messed up. Conversely, some guys do deserve their gf (and/or better).mongolboy said:Ye totally agreed this is a DOG EAT DOG WORLD! yall if u dont knowhas been and only the strongest and smartest survive which is why all the wussies never get pussies
Well, this thread is practically all manipulation as well. However, in this case you are manipulating a woman's mind to believe that she can do much better than her current boyfriend, and that you are the better man.Play the Game said:Wouldn't that be manipulation? In the end the girl has to want to be with you not some other dude. The only reasonable option in your case would be to keep her tied up.![]()
If I knew how to do that. I got no goddamn clue.Play the Game said:Remember: You have to build attraction from the start, that way you're put into the potential bf category at the beginning of the game!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.