You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."DJ1234 said:Just wondering.....you guys that are wanting to use this stuff...are you even the least bit worried that you're going to lose the girl once you get her after using this and some other guy comes along and uses this $h!t on her and STEALS/SAVES her from you?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Exactly, supposedly there isn't much you can do about it, according to another thread...it's really up to the girl...Axcell said:Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MooseGod said:It all depends on what stage of the relationship she's in. If it's a couple weeks or a month into it, you might have a harder time, whereas if they've been dating for a year and she's sick of his crap but doesn't want to leave the security of a relationship you have a lot better chance.
I might also add that you don't look for LTRs doing this. Any chick who would cheat on her boyfriend with you is likely to do the same with some other guy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Wouldn't that be manipulation? In the end the girl has to want to be with you not some other dude. The only reasonable option in your case would be to keep her tied up.Axcell said:Yeah, I have to agree with that.. I lost a great girl a little while ago because some guy pulled this stuff on her. There should be another thread: "How to keep your girlfriend and not let boyfriend-destroyers affect her."
I wouldn't go that far. Strong and smart doesn't necessarily get women, the former helps but the latter rarely does. It's usually about spiking her emotions and acting all fake as if you're Mr Cool and Confident, aka. "game". There are, by my definitions, wusses who have a decent gf. Life isn't always fair, infact it's pretty messed up. Conversely, some guys do deserve their gf (and/or better).mongolboy said:Ye totally agreed this is a DOG EAT DOG WORLD! yall if u dont knowhas been and only the strongest and smartest survive which is why all the wussies never get pussies
Well, this thread is practically all manipulation as well. However, in this case you are manipulating a woman's mind to believe that she can do much better than her current boyfriend, and that you are the better man.Play the Game said:Wouldn't that be manipulation? In the end the girl has to want to be with you not some other dude. The only reasonable option in your case would be to keep her tied up.![]()
If I knew how to do that. I got no goddamn clue.Play the Game said:Remember: You have to build attraction from the start, that way you're put into the potential bf category at the beginning of the game!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.