"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Boundaries - The final word :crackup:

sylvester the cat

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Today i learnt a lesson in boundaries.

i am seeing this 'BPD'. I fell in love with her pretty quick. but thanks to this site i am able to keep from gushing forth my pathetic but overwhelming feelings.

anyhow, i wanted us to be more than sex. i want us to be exclusive, marry, have kids, the full works - but i knew i couldnt say this. to do this would be tantatmount to being a pvssy. and knowing how 'well' doing this has turned out in the past i knew to keep my big trap shut.

so whaddayanknow. following my manipulative games, she is asking 'the question'. 'what are we?'

so i didnt have to set boundaries verbally as she came setting them herself. what boundaries i set i set previously through actions - not rewarding flakey behaviour, not chasing etc. we are in tune so i didnt feel the need to set them. she knows the score. and when comes the time she doesn't - then i know we aren't in tune no more so what needs of boundaries then? it's over.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You gonna get in a serious thing with a genuine BPD....?

Good luck sons. Just don't get yaself arrested and/or killed.
 

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I look forward to counselling you in 6-12months time.

You're welcome in advance, Sylvester.
 

sylvester the cat

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TheMonkeyKing said:
I look forward to counselling you in 6-12months time.

You're welcome in advance, Sylvester.
already been there, done that. learnt i was a bpd myself hence why i attracted them.

thanks to this site i am better equipped to deal with them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fair enough. They are easy pickings for the astute practitioner, granted.

I repeat, don't get yaself arrested/killed.
 

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You can give me a borderline over a histrionic any day of the week.
at least they actually have some grasp of reality.
even if it is limited.

once you get a handle of the duel weapons of N/C and ABANDONMENT,applied in the right doses.
You can relieve the glory days over and over.
Their object constancy is right up their with the goldfish.
 

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sylvester the cat said:
she is asking 'the question'. 'what are we?'

so i didnt have to set boundaries verbally as she came setting them herself. what boundaries i set i set previously through actions - not rewarding flakey behaviour, not chasing etc. we are in tune so i didnt feel the need to set them. she knows the score. and when comes the time she doesn't - then i know we aren't in tune no more so what needs of boundaries then? it's over.
I think this is what we call an epiphany. :up:
 
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