"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Boundaries - The final word :crackup:

sylvester the cat

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Today i learnt a lesson in boundaries.

i am seeing this 'BPD'. I fell in love with her pretty quick. but thanks to this site i am able to keep from gushing forth my pathetic but overwhelming feelings.

anyhow, i wanted us to be more than sex. i want us to be exclusive, marry, have kids, the full works - but i knew i couldnt say this. to do this would be tantatmount to being a pvssy. and knowing how 'well' doing this has turned out in the past i knew to keep my big trap shut.

so whaddayanknow. following my manipulative games, she is asking 'the question'. 'what are we?'

so i didnt have to set boundaries verbally as she came setting them herself. what boundaries i set i set previously through actions - not rewarding flakey behaviour, not chasing etc. we are in tune so i didnt feel the need to set them. she knows the score. and when comes the time she doesn't - then i know we aren't in tune no more so what needs of boundaries then? it's over.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheMonkeyKing

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You gonna get in a serious thing with a genuine BPD....?

Good luck sons. Just don't get yaself arrested and/or killed.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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I look forward to counselling you in 6-12months time.

You're welcome in advance, Sylvester.
 

sylvester the cat

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TheMonkeyKing said:
I look forward to counselling you in 6-12months time.

You're welcome in advance, Sylvester.
already been there, done that. learnt i was a bpd myself hence why i attracted them.

thanks to this site i am better equipped to deal with them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Fair enough. They are easy pickings for the astute practitioner, granted.

I repeat, don't get yaself arrested/killed.
 

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You can give me a borderline over a histrionic any day of the week.
at least they actually have some grasp of reality.
even if it is limited.

once you get a handle of the duel weapons of N/C and ABANDONMENT,applied in the right doses.
You can relieve the glory days over and over.
Their object constancy is right up their with the goldfish.
 

Peaks&Valleys

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sylvester the cat said:
she is asking 'the question'. 'what are we?'

so i didnt have to set boundaries verbally as she came setting them herself. what boundaries i set i set previously through actions - not rewarding flakey behaviour, not chasing etc. we are in tune so i didnt feel the need to set them. she knows the score. and when comes the time she doesn't - then i know we aren't in tune no more so what needs of boundaries then? it's over.
I think this is what we call an epiphany. :up:
 
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