You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Haha, i was expecting to read a more indepth report of the event itself, summat like the old porno stories out of razzle!I got all the usual have you got a girlfriend lines and stuff like that but managed to get through okay
That’s enough anyway, back to bootcamp!!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Belief, Will and Determination!!!
Excellent stuff Scorpio!!!
You live in the Phillipines? thats awesome - coz it rains non stop here in England lol
Good work on the Hi count! Remember that those people who laugh or ignore you are simply one of 3 things:
1. AFRAID
2. SHY
3. IGNORANT
You and I and the rest of the DJ's are neither - we are men!
Sarge On...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The thing I've learned mostly about eye contact here besides the fact that generally people are afraid to return it, is that it does feel kind of off to just give eye contact and not say anything. If you are giving eye contact to people, open up and say something as simple as hi. 9 times out of 10, you'll get a hi back and maybe even get an interesting conversation out of it.Originally posted by Tkay
I've been doing this EC stuff for a while now, and I have some questions about particular situations.
* A girl sitting, waiting for her bus. I look her straight in the eyes, but I *FORGET* to smile. She keeps following me with her eyes, and I do as well. She actually looks UP while I walk her by.
* A girl sitting in the bus, a few seats in front of me, facing towards me. I had to get out, and I look her in the eyes. She keeps her eyes locked as well.
While I pass her I smile, and she says something, but I have my MP3 player on at the time, so I didn't hear what.
Maybe it was "Hi", maybe it was "wtf u looking at weirdo".
* Another bus story, same situation, different girl. I keep looking at her ALOT, and I believe she returned EC alot too. IOI? Dunno. I look her in the eyes and smile, she does this fakesmily thing and looks away again.
So my question. Every so often I feel people get freaked out, or don't feel comfortable when I make/maintain EC. What part am I doing wrong? Shouldn't I keep EC? I feel looking away when having EC is a sign of being submissive, which isn't good.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.