You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Haha, i was expecting to read a more indepth report of the event itself, summat like the old porno stories out of razzle!I got all the usual have you got a girlfriend lines and stuff like that but managed to get through okay
That’s enough anyway, back to bootcamp!!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Belief, Will and Determination!!!
Excellent stuff Scorpio!!!
You live in the Phillipines? thats awesome - coz it rains non stop here in England lol
Good work on the Hi count! Remember that those people who laugh or ignore you are simply one of 3 things:
1. AFRAID
2. SHY
3. IGNORANT
You and I and the rest of the DJ's are neither - we are men!
Sarge On...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The thing I've learned mostly about eye contact here besides the fact that generally people are afraid to return it, is that it does feel kind of off to just give eye contact and not say anything. If you are giving eye contact to people, open up and say something as simple as hi. 9 times out of 10, you'll get a hi back and maybe even get an interesting conversation out of it.Originally posted by Tkay
I've been doing this EC stuff for a while now, and I have some questions about particular situations.
* A girl sitting, waiting for her bus. I look her straight in the eyes, but I *FORGET* to smile. She keeps following me with her eyes, and I do as well. She actually looks UP while I walk her by.
* A girl sitting in the bus, a few seats in front of me, facing towards me. I had to get out, and I look her in the eyes. She keeps her eyes locked as well.
While I pass her I smile, and she says something, but I have my MP3 player on at the time, so I didn't hear what.
Maybe it was "Hi", maybe it was "wtf u looking at weirdo".
* Another bus story, same situation, different girl. I keep looking at her ALOT, and I believe she returned EC alot too. IOI? Dunno. I look her in the eyes and smile, she does this fakesmily thing and looks away again.
So my question. Every so often I feel people get freaked out, or don't feel comfortable when I make/maintain EC. What part am I doing wrong? Shouldn't I keep EC? I feel looking away when having EC is a sign of being submissive, which isn't good.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.