"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
BOOT CAMP WEEK 1 (starting 6th July)
- Thread starter Impact
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dont worry Credos, we all have time till thursday, though it would be better if people would post the results AND the failuresCredos said:lol am i doing this boot camp alone or with only 4 others or with more because nobody seems to tell their stories...
ActionJackson
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IMO, its better to do the bootcamp together with other Djs, so you're welcome if you decide to do it, I think we can take new people during the first week as its not that hard to complete it.ActionJackson said:
BBX
Master Don Juan
Lmao, ive never heard that but I don't doubt it at all. I'm austrian as well living in the U.S., but avoiding ec and crap like that is something that I've always tended to do while i've noticed the same thing you did with austrian girls. Ah what are you gonna do. Best of luck.Impact said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have had a bad day. Went to dmv which wasn't too bad. Went to the courthouse to take care of paperwork. That place is a breedingground for incompitence and treating humans like dirt.
Needless to day, I allowed these scumbags to make me feel like crap, and now am not even in the mood to talk to any girl.
I'm sort of trying to figure out what I can do to make myself feel better and happier.
DontbeaPuss
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. Thats probebly because at my work most of the people are 30+...(guys too because could come in handy next year in college for new friends right )But got the weekend now to do those
should work so, anybody wanna join me is welcome Good luck to the rest of you guys who still gotta do the excercise
Dobo
Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dobo
Don Juan
But on Monday I plan to work extra hard, to catch up
So now I'm of to the beach see what that gives, to bad none of my mates wanna come along, is it just me or is the beach boring alone
. Hope I find some easy moments there to say some hi's, maybe i should go to a beach a bit farther from home .Btw got my drivers licence today, in belgium youre allowed to drink at 16 and to get your drivers licence at 18 so I'm one of the really really early ones to get that
, chicks ill go out with(i hope) in a few weeks might dig that :rockon:, sure hope so well I'm off, ill report later today or tomorow
ciao :moon:
. I got 3 hi'sat older people, nobody responded, so I felt like a psycho in a matter of minutes pfff this is not good for week 3, so what if I can say hi and approach older people? I can't do my own age and thats why i'm doing this bootcamp... :s. Maybe it will come...
guess I'll have to find some courage along the way, the beach isen't really the easiest place, and is VERY VERY VERY boring alone, don't go there unless some of your mates coming along and by the way nothing really lead to me saying hi (will it ever
?). Tonights a beachparty, I remember last year, where I met my first girlfriend so I know its possible to get some hi's there, maybe there I'll find my click afc_recovering
Don Juan
You say you get really nervous at the beach and you think you should go out with your buddies, but I can attest to the fact that it'll make it a lot worse. . For the first while, you have to get comfortable going out on your own, it'll do wonders for your confidence.
As for not being able to say hi, before you go out should think about these 6 things.
1. I'm alone, if I screw up noone is even going to see this.
2. The only way I can fail is if I come back home without the hi's.
3. I will probably never see these people again.
4. NOONE is going to think bad of me because I say hi!
5. I don't have any interest in these people anyways, who cares what they think?
And finally, you said you felt like a psycho saying hi to everyone, me too dude! A lot of people are just startled because they're not used to confident DJ's such as yourself having the balls to says hi to a total stranger. Now get out there and sarge that beach party! :rockon:
Credos, don't expect taking your buddies with you to make you feel more confident, you are just limiting yourself this way. We are trying here to expand our confort zones. And I doubt that you'll feel more confident, I think it will be more like clinginess to your friends.Credos said:don't go there unless some of your mates coming along and by the way nothing really lead to me saying hi (will it ever
Ok, today I got 9 hi's (one of them short convo and number-close). I also think like a psycho when I say hi and they look startled at me, but don't forget we are the ones improving ourselves and it's what we have to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results, so this is how we are setting our way to success.
11/50
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Master of the Universe:
"The purpose of this intense eight-week program is to take a reforming average frustrated chump
(RAFC) and turn him into a DJ.
Normally, this is a process that can take months or even years, so in order to compress this into a
period of eight weeks, the participants must be willing to put their ego, fear, and habits aside, and be
willing to go well beyond their normal comfort zones.
However, the possible rewards do outweigh the negatives. Imagine the wonderful feeling of no longer
fearing approaching girls, knowing that you can start a conversation with her, get her number, and
start dating her. No longer do you have to wonder why all your friends are getting all the girls, while
you're just getting the short-end of the stick."
I strongly recommend reading the PDF version of the BC, here it is:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf
And guys, don't forget to read the weekly articles!!!
Empower Your Voice
I think I'll get some easy number closes in week 3. Though I won't let my gaurd down now, that would be the stupid thing to do.Ow yea one chick there, this HB8.5 from my school, I made EC with her and she's emediatly smiling and saying hi at me
damn I really need to get to know this girl and date her . I don't care if I didn't do it yesterday, I see her at most parties, and I make EC with her a lot. maybe she's in to me didn't really care at the time... Anyway hope next week will still go well for all of us Ciao
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.