She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dont worry Credos, we all have time till thursday, though it would be better if people would post the results AND the failuresCredos said:lol am i doing this boot camp alone or with only 4 others or with more because nobody seems to tell their stories...![]()
IMO, its better to do the bootcamp together with other Djs, so you're welcome if you decide to do it, I think we can take new people during the first week as its not that hard to complete it.ActionJackson said:Should I start today ot wait a week? I read the course info a couple weeks ago. Sould I start with all of you so I have extra "support"?
Lmao, ive never heard that but I don't doubt it at all. I'm austrian as well living in the U.S., but avoiding ec and crap like that is something that I've always tended to do while i've noticed the same thing you did with austrian girls. Ah what are you gonna do. Best of luck.Impact said:Yesterday I got only 2 hi's (one of them I approached, short convo), EC is no problem at all, its just that 9 out of ten would avoid making EC (I think its the culture of the austrian chicks)
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Credos, don't expect taking your buddies with you to make you feel more confident, you are just limiting yourself this way. We are trying here to expand our confort zones. And I doubt that you'll feel more confident, I think it will be more like clinginess to your friends.Credos said:don't go there unless some of your mates coming along and by the way nothing really lead to me saying hi (will it ever?). Tonights a beachparty, I remember last year, where I met my first girlfriend so I know its possible to get some hi's there, maybe there I'll find my click
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.