Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dont worry Credos, we all have time till thursday, though it would be better if people would post the results AND the failuresCredos said:lol am i doing this boot camp alone or with only 4 others or with more because nobody seems to tell their stories...![]()
IMO, its better to do the bootcamp together with other Djs, so you're welcome if you decide to do it, I think we can take new people during the first week as its not that hard to complete it.ActionJackson said:Should I start today ot wait a week? I read the course info a couple weeks ago. Sould I start with all of you so I have extra "support"?
Lmao, ive never heard that but I don't doubt it at all. I'm austrian as well living in the U.S., but avoiding ec and crap like that is something that I've always tended to do while i've noticed the same thing you did with austrian girls. Ah what are you gonna do. Best of luck.Impact said:Yesterday I got only 2 hi's (one of them I approached, short convo), EC is no problem at all, its just that 9 out of ten would avoid making EC (I think its the culture of the austrian chicks)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Credos, don't expect taking your buddies with you to make you feel more confident, you are just limiting yourself this way. We are trying here to expand our confort zones. And I doubt that you'll feel more confident, I think it will be more like clinginess to your friends.Credos said:don't go there unless some of your mates coming along and by the way nothing really lead to me saying hi (will it ever?). Tonights a beachparty, I remember last year, where I met my first girlfriend so I know its possible to get some hi's there, maybe there I'll find my click
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.