"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BOOT CAMP WEEK 1 (starting 6th July)
- Thread starter Impact
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dont worry Credos, we all have time till thursday, though it would be better if people would post the results AND the failuresCredos said:lol am i doing this boot camp alone or with only 4 others or with more because nobody seems to tell their stories...
ActionJackson
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IMO, its better to do the bootcamp together with other Djs, so you're welcome if you decide to do it, I think we can take new people during the first week as its not that hard to complete it.ActionJackson said:
BBX
Master Don Juan
Lmao, ive never heard that but I don't doubt it at all. I'm austrian as well living in the U.S., but avoiding ec and crap like that is something that I've always tended to do while i've noticed the same thing you did with austrian girls. Ah what are you gonna do. Best of luck.Impact said:
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I have had a bad day. Went to dmv which wasn't too bad. Went to the courthouse to take care of paperwork. That place is a breedingground for incompitence and treating humans like dirt.
Needless to day, I allowed these scumbags to make me feel like crap, and now am not even in the mood to talk to any girl.
I'm sort of trying to figure out what I can do to make myself feel better and happier.
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. Thats probebly because at my work most of the people are 30+...(guys too because could come in handy next year in college for new friends right )But got the weekend now to do those
should work so, anybody wanna join me is welcome Good luck to the rest of you guys who still gotta do the excercise
Dobo
Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dobo
Don Juan
But on Monday I plan to work extra hard, to catch up
So now I'm of to the beach see what that gives, to bad none of my mates wanna come along, is it just me or is the beach boring alone
. Hope I find some easy moments there to say some hi's, maybe i should go to a beach a bit farther from home .Btw got my drivers licence today, in belgium youre allowed to drink at 16 and to get your drivers licence at 18 so I'm one of the really really early ones to get that
, chicks ill go out with(i hope) in a few weeks might dig that :rockon:, sure hope so well I'm off, ill report later today or tomorow
ciao :moon:
. I got 3 hi'sat older people, nobody responded, so I felt like a psycho in a matter of minutes pfff this is not good for week 3, so what if I can say hi and approach older people? I can't do my own age and thats why i'm doing this bootcamp... :s. Maybe it will come...
guess I'll have to find some courage along the way, the beach isen't really the easiest place, and is VERY VERY VERY boring alone, don't go there unless some of your mates coming along and by the way nothing really lead to me saying hi (will it ever
?). Tonights a beachparty, I remember last year, where I met my first girlfriend so I know its possible to get some hi's there, maybe there I'll find my click afc_recovering
Don Juan
You say you get really nervous at the beach and you think you should go out with your buddies, but I can attest to the fact that it'll make it a lot worse. . For the first while, you have to get comfortable going out on your own, it'll do wonders for your confidence.
As for not being able to say hi, before you go out should think about these 6 things.
1. I'm alone, if I screw up noone is even going to see this.
2. The only way I can fail is if I come back home without the hi's.
3. I will probably never see these people again.
4. NOONE is going to think bad of me because I say hi!
5. I don't have any interest in these people anyways, who cares what they think?
And finally, you said you felt like a psycho saying hi to everyone, me too dude! A lot of people are just startled because they're not used to confident DJ's such as yourself having the balls to says hi to a total stranger. Now get out there and sarge that beach party! :rockon:
Credos, don't expect taking your buddies with you to make you feel more confident, you are just limiting yourself this way. We are trying here to expand our confort zones. And I doubt that you'll feel more confident, I think it will be more like clinginess to your friends.Credos said:don't go there unless some of your mates coming along and by the way nothing really lead to me saying hi (will it ever
Ok, today I got 9 hi's (one of them short convo and number-close). I also think like a psycho when I say hi and they look startled at me, but don't forget we are the ones improving ourselves and it's what we have to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results, so this is how we are setting our way to success.
11/50
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Master of the Universe:
"The purpose of this intense eight-week program is to take a reforming average frustrated chump
(RAFC) and turn him into a DJ.
Normally, this is a process that can take months or even years, so in order to compress this into a
period of eight weeks, the participants must be willing to put their ego, fear, and habits aside, and be
willing to go well beyond their normal comfort zones.
However, the possible rewards do outweigh the negatives. Imagine the wonderful feeling of no longer
fearing approaching girls, knowing that you can start a conversation with her, get her number, and
start dating her. No longer do you have to wonder why all your friends are getting all the girls, while
you're just getting the short-end of the stick."
I strongly recommend reading the PDF version of the BC, here it is:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf
And guys, don't forget to read the weekly articles!!!
Empower Your Voice
I think I'll get some easy number closes in week 3. Though I won't let my gaurd down now, that would be the stupid thing to do.Ow yea one chick there, this HB8.5 from my school, I made EC with her and she's emediatly smiling and saying hi at me
damn I really need to get to know this girl and date her . I don't care if I didn't do it yesterday, I see her at most parties, and I make EC with her a lot. maybe she's in to me didn't really care at the time... Anyway hope next week will still go well for all of us Ciao
21/50
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.