"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Boot Camp Thread (Opening May 2nd)

[look]aRhino

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Hey you guys, I'm still studying for my lsat and packing up my house for a move, so I haven't done too much bootcamp lately.

Lost though, I suggest you move onto the conversations. You've done the smiling and EC enough. Keep doing it, but now, if you see something funny, turn to the person next to you and comment on it. Just make random talk.

IMO, its more natural and less awkward than just a random hello.

Rhino
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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juanstepatatime

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OK, cold approaches... I dunno. I find these to be DAMNED hard to do. I'm on week 3, and I get convos with HB in context no problem, but I always chicken out of cold approaches. Do you guys stop HB on the street and just start talking em up? Or am I being too hard on myself by saying I have to to totally cold approaches to get past this week?
 

Lost

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Originally posted by [look]aRhino
Hey you guys, I'm still studying for my lsat and packing up my house for a move, so I haven't done too much bootcamp lately.

Lost though, I suggest you move onto the conversations. You've done the smiling and EC enough. Keep doing it, but now, if you see something funny, turn to the person next to you and comment on it. Just make random talk.

IMO, its more natural and less awkward than just a random hello.

Rhino
but then it seems like ur WAITING for some opportunity. i think the point in this is u got to make them to be able to FINISH the assignment in ONE WEEK.
MY attitude is still kinda ****ty from yesterday :/. didnt get to go to the mall today.... ill see if i can go tomorrow.
 

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week 3

Holy f*cking f*ck its been a long time since I posted. OK, basically I've been on a steady slide downhill. When I was in Cali I hit the beaches and malls with some friends but my effort was ****ty, to say the least. I had to study for a science final when I got back, so my DJing opportunities have been a bit limited. In order to reverse my slump I'm gonna list some goals for the next few weeks and try to stick to em. So here they are:

1. Take Fingers' challenge and eliminate my T.V/Net/video game habits for a week (except for this site). The internet is the biggest consumer of my time and I think cutting it out of my day will make a big difference.

2. Get a minimum of 30 his and 5 convos with strangers every week. Approach at least 10 girls a week.

My slump started when I fell out of practice and spent a few days in front of the T.V/computer. I think regular practice will keep my social skills sharp.

I'd try to come up with more but I'm tired so I'll leave it at that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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