"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Boot Camp Thread (Opening May 2nd)

[look]aRhino

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Hey you guys, I'm still studying for my lsat and packing up my house for a move, so I haven't done too much bootcamp lately.

Lost though, I suggest you move onto the conversations. You've done the smiling and EC enough. Keep doing it, but now, if you see something funny, turn to the person next to you and comment on it. Just make random talk.

IMO, its more natural and less awkward than just a random hello.

Rhino
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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juanstepatatime

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OK, cold approaches... I dunno. I find these to be DAMNED hard to do. I'm on week 3, and I get convos with HB in context no problem, but I always chicken out of cold approaches. Do you guys stop HB on the street and just start talking em up? Or am I being too hard on myself by saying I have to to totally cold approaches to get past this week?
 

Lost

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Originally posted by [look]aRhino
Hey you guys, I'm still studying for my lsat and packing up my house for a move, so I haven't done too much bootcamp lately.

Lost though, I suggest you move onto the conversations. You've done the smiling and EC enough. Keep doing it, but now, if you see something funny, turn to the person next to you and comment on it. Just make random talk.

IMO, its more natural and less awkward than just a random hello.

Rhino
but then it seems like ur WAITING for some opportunity. i think the point in this is u got to make them to be able to FINISH the assignment in ONE WEEK.
MY attitude is still kinda ****ty from yesterday :/. didnt get to go to the mall today.... ill see if i can go tomorrow.
 

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week 3

Holy f*cking f*ck its been a long time since I posted. OK, basically I've been on a steady slide downhill. When I was in Cali I hit the beaches and malls with some friends but my effort was ****ty, to say the least. I had to study for a science final when I got back, so my DJing opportunities have been a bit limited. In order to reverse my slump I'm gonna list some goals for the next few weeks and try to stick to em. So here they are:

1. Take Fingers' challenge and eliminate my T.V/Net/video game habits for a week (except for this site). The internet is the biggest consumer of my time and I think cutting it out of my day will make a big difference.

2. Get a minimum of 30 his and 5 convos with strangers every week. Approach at least 10 girls a week.

My slump started when I fell out of practice and spent a few days in front of the T.V/computer. I think regular practice will keep my social skills sharp.

I'd try to come up with more but I'm tired so I'll leave it at that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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