"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Boot Camp Thread (Opening May 2nd)

[look]aRhino

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Hey you guys, I'm still studying for my lsat and packing up my house for a move, so I haven't done too much bootcamp lately.

Lost though, I suggest you move onto the conversations. You've done the smiling and EC enough. Keep doing it, but now, if you see something funny, turn to the person next to you and comment on it. Just make random talk.

IMO, its more natural and less awkward than just a random hello.

Rhino
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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juanstepatatime

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OK, cold approaches... I dunno. I find these to be DAMNED hard to do. I'm on week 3, and I get convos with HB in context no problem, but I always chicken out of cold approaches. Do you guys stop HB on the street and just start talking em up? Or am I being too hard on myself by saying I have to to totally cold approaches to get past this week?
 

Lost

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Originally posted by [look]aRhino
Hey you guys, I'm still studying for my lsat and packing up my house for a move, so I haven't done too much bootcamp lately.

Lost though, I suggest you move onto the conversations. You've done the smiling and EC enough. Keep doing it, but now, if you see something funny, turn to the person next to you and comment on it. Just make random talk.

IMO, its more natural and less awkward than just a random hello.

Rhino
but then it seems like ur WAITING for some opportunity. i think the point in this is u got to make them to be able to FINISH the assignment in ONE WEEK.
MY attitude is still kinda ****ty from yesterday :/. didnt get to go to the mall today.... ill see if i can go tomorrow.
 

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week 3

Holy f*cking f*ck its been a long time since I posted. OK, basically I've been on a steady slide downhill. When I was in Cali I hit the beaches and malls with some friends but my effort was ****ty, to say the least. I had to study for a science final when I got back, so my DJing opportunities have been a bit limited. In order to reverse my slump I'm gonna list some goals for the next few weeks and try to stick to em. So here they are:

1. Take Fingers' challenge and eliminate my T.V/Net/video game habits for a week (except for this site). The internet is the biggest consumer of my time and I think cutting it out of my day will make a big difference.

2. Get a minimum of 30 his and 5 convos with strangers every week. Approach at least 10 girls a week.

My slump started when I fell out of practice and spent a few days in front of the T.V/computer. I think regular practice will keep my social skills sharp.

I'd try to come up with more but I'm tired so I'll leave it at that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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